My parents and I have been estranged for over 10 years. As a result I am excluding them from my wedding. Recently, my grandparents have been pressuring me to "make up" by inviting my father to my wedding. They have implied that they may not be able to attend if he is not invited. I do not intend to change my decision on excluding them but, if my grandparents do not attend it will drastically effect my plans, including not having someone to walk me down the isle, not having much family at my wedding, and not having a "parents" dance which I think my fiancee's parents should get to enjoy.
I'm not sure how to navigate this situation. All this drama is steering me towards elopement which I think I might end up regretting. Anyone ever been in this situation? What did you do?