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Please give me your thoughts on this.

We're having a late morning ceremony with a lunch reception. With that, we're having a small, simple cake (though enough for everyone to have a slice if they want it!) and a chocolate fondue fountain with fresh fruit (FI really really wanted this in place of a grooms cake). Our favors are going to be cupcakes from the same place the wedding cake is made at (they are fantastic!)

We're discussing appetizers. Ceremony will be over by 11:30, and is on site with the reception. Lunch will have salad, rolls, entree with sides, drinks, and then the above described desserts. I was thinking two passed options for apps, and two heated dips (it's early March, might be cold). FI is now really pushing for a cheese fondue with veggies, fruit and breads as an app. I think it's too messy- with the heated dips, there's at least serving spoons in the dips so you can put a bit on your plate and move on. With fondue, there's a higher risk of dripping on oneself plus you have to stand there while you dip. While I know people will do that with the chocolate, at least they will already have food at their seats and can wait for fewer people to be near the fondue, etc. Plus, I think two fondues is a bit much, and while we know our site can definitely do the chocolate, they may not be able to do the cheese/ may only be able to set up for one of the options.

What do you ladies think? Do everything we can to have cheese fondue? Bad idea for cocktail hour? Too much to have cheese AND chocolate?

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  • thisismynickname2thisismynickname2 member
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    I would never say cheese and chocolate are too much, in theory!  Haha.

    Both cheese fondues and chocolate fountains are really messy, unfortunately. As much as I dig a chocolate fountain, I avoid it at weddings because I have a tendency to drop food on myself. 
    If you had mini-cheese fondue pots at each table that could be fun (like a proper fondue restaurant would have), but my ending opinion is that it's too much.  Put out a nice cheese spread instead, perhaps? 

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  • cruffinocruffino member
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    i would skip the cheese fondue. sounds like too much of a hassle and mess. i would stick with easier to handle appetizers and dazzle them with the chocolate fountain later!
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  • HisGirlFriday13HisGirlFriday13 member
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    I agree that cheese fondue seems like way too messy/time-consuming for an appetizer. And I LOVE cheese (as in, I bought seven different types at the grocery store the other night).
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  • joannaeberhartjoannaeberhart member
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    I'd hate to dissuade you from what your FI wants, but all the PP are correct about chocolate fountains being super messy. 

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  • cupcait927cupcait927 member
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    I LOVE me a cheese fondue but I have to agree with PPs, it would just be too messy at a wedding.

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  • climbingsingleclimbingsingle member
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    I would skip the cheese fondue but keep the chocolate.
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  • AprilH81AprilH81 member
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    I would do one or the other but not both.  

    Your timeline is almost exactly what mine is and we are going light on the appetizers for the cocktail hour since they will have a heavy meal for lunch.
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  • InkdancerInkdancer member
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    I hate to agree with everyone. I love both chocolate and cheese, but I would be really sad if I ruined my nice wedding outfit with dribbly fondue.
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  • Chipmunk415Chipmunk415 member
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    Thanks ladies! I should also add as an additional note- unless the weather is poor, the apps and whatnot will be outside on the covered verandah. I'll bring up the possibility of wind whipping and making cheese fly to FI, might help him stop and think a moment. The chocolate would be indoors, and from what I can tell of photos of prior weddings there, it's a fairly short fondue with a wide basin at the bottom, so less splashing. I'm also going to talk to the coordinator about whether we can just have it out like a heated dip, without the tiers, for less drippiness.

    I'll also tell FI that I think folks would go nuts over the chocolate, but we need to have one or the other, can't do both, especially if he really wants two other things- it's a budget issue at that point.

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  • KeptInStitchesKeptInStitches member
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    I'd skip the fondues generally. I'm not the best example, but I can't go near a fondue without wearing some portion of the fondue. I'd end up not eating it and looking at it longingly because any outfit I'd wear to a wedding I definitely wouldn't want to spill on.
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  • Emmy1493Emmy1493 member
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    If I were to do a TTD session, I would totally have a chocolate fondue fountain. I'd eat all the chocolate and wouldn't care where it went on the dress afterwards haha. :) (And I may or may not be joking)

    ETA: I know OP was not referencing to a TTD session, but I just thought of that randomly and had to say it. 
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  • Jessa617 Jessa617 member
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    I personally would skip both fondues. As PP mentioned, they tend to make terrible messes. From a guest's point of view, I wouldn't want to stand there and dip my own items in chocolate, I'd rather grab right from a tray, get it on my plate and sit down. I'm a "no hassle" kind of person and I wouldn't even attempt to go to a fondue station if there was one. 

    I love cheese (all kinds), so I would highly suggest some kind of cheese tray with cheeses already sliced up with an assortment of crackers etc. 
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    MrsKleespies said:
    I'd hate to dissuade you from what your FI wants, but all the PP are correct about chocolate fountains being super messy. 

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  • PrettyGirlLostPrettyGirlLost member
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    Jessa617 said:
    I personally would skip both fondues. As PP mentioned, they tend to make terrible messes. From a guest's point of view, I wouldn't want to stand there and dip my own items in chocolate, I'd rather grab right from a tray, get it on my plate and sit down. I'm a "no hassle" kind of person and I wouldn't even attempt to go to a fondue station if there was one. 

    I love cheese (all kinds), so I would highly suggest some kind of cheese tray with cheeses already sliced up with an assortment of crackers etc. 
    Add me to the no fountains/fondue at the wedding votes.

    Especially if there will be kids at the reception.  Have you ever seen kids anywhere near a chocolate fountain?  Not only will they be covered in chocolate and smear it everywhere, but unless monitored by an adult they tend to put their fingers in the fountain, double dip, put half eaten food in the fountain, etc.

    A friend of mine worked at a nice restaurant and Inn when we were in college and at one wedding she worked the couple requested a chocolate fountain.  The bride's flower girl got chocolate all over her bridal gown that night.

    Which reminds me. . . have to discussed the chocolate fountain and fondue idea with your venue?  Many places in this are forbid their use and won't supply them or allow you to bring them in.

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  • Chipmunk415Chipmunk415 member
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    Thanks ladies! I'm definitely reconsidering fondue altogether, though FI and I will have to discuss that before meeting with the coordinator next week. Perhaps just offering fresh fruit to accompany the simple cake will be sufficient (and will make the "no white sugar" people happy too)

    To clarify for prettygirllost- the only 4 children at the reception are 7-9 years old. Two have experience with fondue, and their mom would be supervising/doing the work of dipping. The venue does allow chocolate fondue- it's on their lists of food options which is why we considered it in the first place.

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