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Role in WP

So I just wanted to get some unbiased insight on a dilemma I'm having. I am standing up as a "co-MOH" in a friends wedding. I live a 4hr plane ride away, and am (I think) the only guest coming in from out of town that can't drive in. My FI is coming too, of course. Due to work and other obligations, it is starting to look like we likely won't be able to get in to town until the day before (Friday) in the morning, but with enough time to ensure I am at the rehearsal. The bride is one of my best friends, and she has mentioned she wants the entire bridal party to go get mani/pedis, etc before the wedding. Like I said, for us, it's just not looking feasible to be there any earlier. I know some brides have a warped view on what is "required" by members of the WP, but am I totally in the wrong for arriving that day/only being there early enough for the rehearsal??
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Re: Role in WP

  • Blue_BirdBlue_Bird member
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    edited January 2014
    tcnoble said:
    So I just wanted to get some unbiased insight on a dilemma I'm having. I am standing up as a "co-MOH" in a friends wedding. I live a 4hr plane ride away, and am (I think) the only guest coming in from out of town that can't drive in. My FI is coming too, of course. Due to work and other obligations, it is starting to look like we likely won't be able to get in to town until the day before (Friday) in the morning, but with enough time to ensure I am at the rehearsal. The bride is one of my best friends, and she has mentioned she wants the entire bridal party to go get mani/pedis, etc before the wedding. Like I said, for us, it's just not looking feasible to be there any earlier. I know some brides have a warped view on what is "required" by members of the WP, but am I totally in the wrong for arriving that day/only being there early enough for the rehearsal??
    Arriving the day before is more than reasonable. Unless your friend is an immature brat (most women aren't like this, but the Internet and reality television seem to make it seem so), then she's not going to throw a hissy fit if you don't go. It's just a nail appointment, not the wedding. If you want your nails professionally done, you can do it before you arrive. Also (and I'm going by the maturity-level of people I know and faith in humanity), this is likely just a fun, bonding thing she wants to do beforehand (which she should be paying for if she's "requiring" it). You know your friend best, but I wouldn't sweat it. And if she gets upset, she'll get over it. You can be filled in the day of for the rehearsal. This is a non-issue.

    Edited for spelling and punctuation.
  • Nope. I wouldn't judge you even if you couldn't make the rehearsal since you have to fly in, so I think it's awesome you're working that in. 

    If she complains about missing the nail appointment, she's being a ridiculous bridezilla since you are clearly making a great effort and spending a chuck of money to be there for her on her wedding day. Hopefully your friend keeps a good head on your shoulders. 
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  • Don't give it another thought. You're fine.
    What did you think would happen if you walked up to a group of internet strangers and told them to get shoehorned by their lady doc?~StageManager14
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  • Whew thanks ladies!!! I have a feeling she may not be so level headed about it when she finds out, but oh well.... I thought I was okay and you all just reaffirmed it! Thanks :)
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  • Give her a call asap and just let her know. Personally, I'd rather have you there late than not at all... but I'd made sure she's well aware of the situation and isn't surprised to hear you won't be there for some of the day-before fun!
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