My fiance and I have a pretty big wedding party. We have one friend, a gay man, who we're both close to but is better friends with me (the bride). Him and his husband got married two years ago and I was asked to be in their bridal party but they ended up getting married at City Hall and haven't had the reception yet. I know that he wants to be in the bridal party and that another friend of his put him on the girl's side at her wedding. I'd love to have him in it but the bridal party is so big already and the only guy I'm putting in is my little cousin since I'm an only child. I feel like there are other guys that I've been friends with longer who should be in it before him but I do see him more at this point and we are pretty close. I'd rather just keep it as it is but I know it'll end up hurting his feelings. Is there some sort of alternative position that he can help with? Like an usher or something else where he can be included in part of it but maybe not be in the actual wedding party? I'd love to have him and his husband be in a role like that where they can feel special but it'll help keep the party from getting bigger.