This is mostly just me hashing out my frustrations because my mom's 4 hours away and I need a hug. I'm fairly certain I need a break from planning but I don't know how to switch off, especially considering that one of the pages I manage is a weddings page.
When FI and I first started talking about the possibility of us getting married, a while before we actually got engaged, I started... I wouldn't say planning, exactly, but envisioning. I had an idea of pretty much everything I wanted - it wasn't set in stone, obviously, because I wasn't actively planning and in any case it's not just my wedding, but also FI's - but I had direction.
Now FI and I have been engaged 4 months, we're a little under 10 months out, and it's all gone out the window. We wanted a winter wedding, and all my ideas were for a winter wedding. Now our date is set for summer. Our guest list has gone from the 20 range to the 90 range and is currently hovering around 50. The venue we want can comfortably fit 50 people, we just won't have dancing - which we weren't planning on having anyway.
I designed a dress for myself that was gorgeous, but it won't work on our date because it has extremely long sleeves. I tried modifying it and it just doesn't look right. Now I don't know what I want, and I need to make a decision fairly soon because I'm planning on having it made (it's cheaper than buying a dress here) and the dressmaker is in the city, 4 hours away, and I only get up there once every 2-3 months. I'm giving my BP free reign on her attire once my dress is decided on, so I also need to let her know what's happening. I've always wanted to wear a ballgown but I've never been able to because everything available here for a woman of my size is empire waist or a-line, all my formal dresses have always been one of the two. But I'm not sure that a ballgown will work with the tone we want for the wedding, which is casual but elegant.
I've been working on the invitation designs since we got engaged. I have gone through so many options I'm going design-blind. I've done flat card, bi-fold, tri-fold, plain, fancy, embellished, ribbons, lace, black and white, colour, photo, non-photo, and every size imaginable. I managed to narrow it down to 4 options, all flat card, non-photo, colour. But then FI, BM and I all like Option 4, FMIL and sis like Option 2, and I haven't been able to get hold of my mom or MOH to ask their opinions. The problem is that I can't move on to designing the rest of our stationery until we settle on an invitation. I know we still have 10 months, but I'm DIYing this, so I need to get the STDs done and to the printer so that I can work on them over weekends and not have a massive rush just before they need to go out.
Aside from the cake (hummingbird with brown butter frosting in green gradient) and the gents' attire (open collar shirts, sleeves rolled up, waist coats, suit pants) I don't know what I want anymore. I'm suffering from severe planning burnout.
Does anyone else have planning burnout? Does anyone have tips for getting through the burnout?