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Help +1 guest!

LauraD2015LauraD2015 member
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I come from a big family and my aunts and uncles and cousins are invited. Do I need to do a guest for my cousins? I am doing it for close friends. Thoughts? 


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Re: Help +1 guest!

  • BMoreBride6BMoreBride6 member
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    you are only required to offer a +1 for people who are in a relationship (no set time frames, if they consider themselves to be in a relationship, you invite their SO).  It is always nice to extend a +1 to adult, truly single guest, but not necessary.  Try to leave space for anyone who may begin a relationship between now and the wedding.  
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  • JoanE2012JoanE2012 member
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    +1's are not required for truly single guests.  I would do it in circles though.  Meaning, if you do it for one cousin, you should do it for all.  But I think you're fine if you separate it by close friends and cousins.
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  • AddieCakeAddieCake member
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    I think if you give any single guests +1s, you should give all single guests the same.
    What did you think would happen if you walked up to a group of internet strangers and told them to get shoehorned by their lady doc?~StageManager14
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  • indianaalumindianaalum member
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    Anyone IN a relationship regardless of the length, MUST be invited with their SO.

    I also agree if you are talking about "singles" it should be an all or none thing
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  • photokittyphotokitty mod
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    AddieL73 said:
    I think if you give any single guests +1s, you should give all single guests the same.
    I don't agree with this, no offense. In my family it is the norm not to give random guests to family members. SOs are invited, but not random +1. We feel a family wedding is not the time or place to ring a random date, it is time to be with family. I have a huge Catholic family and single cousins are never given plus ones, but friends of the B&G may be. I think it is fine to give single friends plus ones, but not single family members. I for one would never take a random date to a family wedding - awkward!
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  • delujm0delujm0 member
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    You definitely don't have to give +1's to truly single guests.  It is polite to give them to single people who either have to travel a long way to the wedding or who won't know other guests, so that they have someone to travel with/talk to.

     

    I'm going to give +1's to my single family members (cousins mostly) but i seriously doubt any of them will take me up on it.  They all have to fly to get to the wedding, so that would be a pretty big annoyance just to bring a random guest - and they'll know a bunch of people already since they're family.  I'm just doing it to be nice.

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  • LauraD2015LauraD2015 member
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    Thank you so much for the input. I come from a big irish catholic family and I was unsure on what to do. 

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  • Amyzen83Amyzen83 member
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    I'm in the all or nothing boat too but I think it is possible to limit plus 1s to BP and single guests who may not know anyone else or very few others at the wedding
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  • huskypuppy14huskypuppy14 member
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    I don't think it's necessary to give +1s to everyone. As you long as you do it in circles, it shouldn't be an all or none situation. 
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  • OnionBreathOnionBreath member
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    I'd invite SOs and I probably wouldn1't extend plus 1s to some and not others.
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