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Am I over-reacting? (long vendor rant, update got a new florist!)

CaliMel11CaliMel11 member
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edited January 2014 in Flowers
So at the bridal fair I was at, I entered drawings. I happened to enter one for a free bridal bouquet, and I ended up winning! Awesome!

The lady emails me to send her a pinterest board of flowers I like, so I make one. That's fine. Then she asks if we can meet in person. This is when things start to get weird. On the website they list two locations of their studio, one is about 15 mins from my house, the other is over an hour drive away. On the website it makes a huge deal about how they have both so they can easily accommodate people.
I emailed asking if we could meet at the closer one since I live here. She says no, we have to meet at the further away one. Okay, whatever, that's fine.
So I drive all the way there, get there....and there is no one at the front. No one to greet me, no sign of anybody at the florist shop at all. There's a counter that is empty and I can hear people talking, but it's clearly someone meeting up about flowers..
I waited outside for 20 minutes after knocking, saying Helloooo is anyone here? and going in and out the front several times.
Then she pops up and acts like nothing is wrong at all.
I realize she was meeting with another couple for the whole entire time! I understand that things go over, but I literally drove over an hour just to meet with her and she isn't even ready?
Then she forgot what color flowers I liked and kept mentioning the wrong ones. Okay, no biggie. I show her what I want and it's fine. She's nice in person. She promises repeatedly that she will get me my contract within "2-3 days! I don't have anything going on!". So I wait a few days. Then it's a week and a half later. I email her and she apologizes and sends the contract.
Reading it, she put my fiances flowers as orange, and then back up flowers as red. We never, ever discussed having red flowers AT ALL. I don't want red flowers. I know things go out of stock and that's fine, but why would you pick a random color like red when I picked yellow and ivory for the flower colors?
I emailed her asking if she could change my fiances flower to yellow over a month ago, and nothing.
I emailed her a couple days ago about meeting up this month, because we're supposed to meet up to discuss it..and nothing. She never contacted me about anything. I know it's the holidays, but at the same time...she has a business and could have a vacation response set up if she out of office!

At this point I'm ready to email our planner at our venue and ask for flower req's, because I don't care if I am giving up a free bouquet, I would rather deal with someone who can communicate, and does not sneak things into the contract that I never agreed on. I'm guessing that was an accident, that she reused another contract, but still. If I'm going to sign it, I don't want some random color on there.
I'm just really glad I didn't sign anything or put a deposit in yet.
I just can't help but feel like because I won a free bouquet she thinks that I'm somehow not the same as a paying customer, and she is blowing me off completely.
Am I being silly?

Re: Am I over-reacting? (long vendor rant, update got a new florist!)

  • @CaliMel11

    I do not think that you are being silly. I would be seriously considering moving onto a new florist. I understand things happen (like a meeting with another customer going over) but if she's not getting back to you and it has been a month, and you have contacted her several times (which it sounds like this is the case) I would move on. Tear up the contract she sent you and find someone else.
  • I would definitely just forget about the free bouquet and use someone else.  not worth the stress and sounds like some sort of scam
  • I agree with jenni1221...not worth the stress at all and sure does sound like a scam of some sorts.
  • It's just crazy how completely unorganized and uncaring she is! Apparently they're an event planning place, not just a florist, and I would NEVER hire them for that stuff given how uncommunicative she has been with me.
    I emailed my coordinator today and she sent the list of their preferred vendors. What a freaking night and day difference! I emailed the first one on the list after looking at her website and loving the flowers and she responded promptly, has our date open and was just very nice. She was happy I basically have what we need all figured out, along with the colors, and is going to put together a price list for us.
    It's just interesting to see how different the experience can vary. I'm glad I listened to my gut and to you all on here who helped convince me I'm not just being weird. I like to give everyone the benefit of the doubt but at the same time, there is something to be said for how important it is to communicate with people as a vendor! I just have to wonder if she's going to try to contact me before the wedding.
    I found a review where someone said she quit 4 days before their wedding because they called her out on not doing what they had agreed upon and she told them they were over reacting and quit as the planner. So these poor people were left to find another event planner 4 days before their wedding. Awful.
    I'm just soooo freaking grateful that our venue is so organized and has such nice people as their preferred vendors.
  • Go with your gut feelings, if you feel uneasy about it, change. We picked our vendors not only by what they had to offer, but how we felt about our interactions with them. A free bouquet isn't worth the stress of worrying if first she will show up with your flowers and then if they will even be the right flowers. I can understand if a certain rose color may not be available, but then she should have asked you if you wanted a different colored rose in case or a different type of orange flower.
  • Now I'm stressing out because our original bakery couldn't do our cake, so we contacted one on our preferred vendors list. So then I find out that this baker is in the SAME FREAKING BUILDING as the first florist that flaked on us is.
    I'm just going to pretend that nothing happened, and thank goodness I didn't say anything about why we switched to anyone but my family. Our coordinator has a very abbreviated version, and I just told the new florist that things fell through with our first.
    It just makes this all super stressful because I'm not a confrontational person AT ALL and I really hope we don't run into the first florist. As far as the bakery knows, our florist has always been the second one so I'm sure they don't think anything is weird.
    I'm sure I'm completely overthinking this all but it just gives me really awful anxiety.
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