What are my financial responsiblities for a destination bachelorette party?

Re: What are my financial responsiblities for a destination bachelorette party?

• JCbride2015 member

  

  January 2014

  Yeah, talk to the MOH.

  
  

  
  

  
  

  "I'm not a rude bitch.  I'm ten rude bitches in a large coat."

  
  

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• Amyzen83 member

  

  January 2014

  scribe95 said:

  Obviously your expenses are your obligation. I would ask the MOH what she has in mind, maybe tell her you can cover a dinner or something else specific.
  

  This! Also the Moh should have asked everyone invited what their budgets were in the beginning before even planning this trip. Because I have a feeling others may also decline if they can't afford it. Again talk to moh and let her know up front what you are willing to contribute for this trip and let her know you may have to decline if the expectations are above that.

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• kgd7357 member

  

  January 2014

  Yeah. The MOH should clear logistics with everyone prior to setting this up. You are only obligated to pay for what you agree to pay for. She should get an idea of what everyone is comfortable with, then talk with the bride to see if she is comfortable with the plans. I know I'm paying my own transportation to and from my one night OOT bach party, I'm staying with my MOH, but some girls are splitting hotel rooms that they are paying for, and they're treating me to dinner and drinks. Having gone to several other Bach parties, I think it's pretty common to treat the bride to lodging, drinks, and a dinner. I don't think I've ever paid for transportation or breakfasts or anything like that.
  

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• PrncsLisa member

  

  January 2014

  Ask the MOH. Before you call, have a dollar figure in mind that you're unable/unwilling to go over for the trip.

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• thisismynickname2 member

  

  January 2014

  I agree with previous posters. Even on a weekend getaway, I think most reasonable brides would expect to pay some portion of their way. 

  Let's say a bride had a local night out on the town. In such a case, the bridal party and maybe some guests would treat her to the entire night.  If someone went on a several day trip, I still think only one night should be a treat to the bride (dinner, drinks, one night in the hotel tops). 

  If any bride expected an all-expenses paid vacation, I'd think she'd have another thing coming! 

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• delujm0 member

  

  January 2014

  My bachelorette party is "destination." I paid for my own flight. I used my time share for the lodgings, so that no one that is attending has to pay for a hotel. The BM that is planning it is apparently splitting expenses of "other things" which are a secret, with the other participants. I assume this means some of my meals and my drinks for the Main Event, but to be honest, I have just assumed I'd pay my own way. If people want to cover a meal for me, I'll gladly take them up on it. But I'm not going to insist. A Detination Bachelorette party should be viewed as just a normal vacation with your friends, in my opinion. I don't expect anything special, and I didn't expect people to blow their budgets to come. Whoever comes comes.

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• Lily9911 member

  

  January 2014

  goldent9 said:

  So, one of my friends is getting married and she and the MOH have decided to do a destination bachelorette party for a long weekend and I am wondering what my financial obligations are?  I am not in the wedding party,  matter of fact there is only one person in the wedding party (the MOH), but 4 others were invited on the trip.  I want to go and I fully expect to help cover the bride's portion of the condo rental and buy her a few drinks while there, but am I also expected to contribute to her airfare, food, beverages, and entertainment for the entire weekend?  I'm not sure of the etiquette in this situation and need some guidance.  I fear I may end up declining if the expenses become too great!

  Talk to the MOH because I was invited to a friends BP once and I was not in the bridal party. The MOH decided to split EVERYTHING between each person who was going. So they got the most expensive penthouse suite at a hotel, they were planning on going to the most expensive restaurant, we had to pay for all her drinks. I looked at the possibility of what my half alone would be and I decided not to go. It was waaaay too expensive to stay with these girls and participate in everything they wanted to do, I had my own wedding to pay for a month later.

  
  

  Plus, the bride, was already MARRIED and already had her BP 3 years prior, which I helped pay for. 

  
  

  So talk to the MOH and see what she expects you to pay. Sometimes MOH's just assume if you're invited you will happily pay for all of the brides enjoyment, including air fare.

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• Amyzen83 member

  

  January 2014

  I'm a bit confused, did your friend who's BP was too expensive, was she having a PPD?

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• KatWAG member

  

  January 2014

  I had a destination bach party. I paid for everything myself with the exception of one dinner, where my BP split the cost. 

  
  

  Talk to the MOH, tell her what you are comfortable contributing, if anything. 

  

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