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Fiancées parents inviting themselves to our Just-Us destination wedding?

My fiancée and I decided neither of us are into a stuffy large wedding, with $$ being wasted on flowers & such. We booked a honeymoon & was offered the free wedding at Sandals. My parents are fully supportive of our Just-Us destination wedding. They eloped at a Sandals themselves. They asked if I wanted to change my mind, but I am not one for crowds, spotlight, tradition, or anxiety. They still support our decision. My best friend had a big wedding & I saw how miserable she was that "her big day" wasn't really hers, but a show for everyone else. Now, I was just talking with my fiancées parents & they asked where it is, when, & how they can book their flight. Even said they never had a honeymoon so will take theirs 20 years late with us. I told them that we are going by ourselves & having a post-wedding party upon our return. They said "but we have to be there". My family is not coming, & no one has expressed displeasure at not being invited. Again, my own parents eloped 25 years ago, so they understand the aversion to traditional weddings. How can we tell his parents that they cannot take a honeymoon with us? I'm just hoping they'll balk at the cost & decide for themselves not to come, but I don't know how to ensure this. Am I being Bridezilla? Thanks!

Re: Fiancées parents inviting themselves to our Just-Us destination wedding?

  • Not a bridezilla at all!!!! You need to stand your ground if that is the decision you and your FI are making. We are doing a just us in Aruba in May and my family isn't too happy however understand it's our choice, it's our day. I wouldn't even entertain a cost to them cause let's say they are ok with the cost then what.......what you two are doing is fine!!!!!! Good luck and don't buckle :)
  • We shared your exact feelings about traditional weddings and we originally planned a just us wedding for months and months. Just recently I changed my mind and decided to invite immediate family only. I completely agree with the pp. Stand your ground and explain exactly what what you here. It's your day! Good luck!
  • Your FI needs to talk with them and just gently explain that you're so happy that they're excited for you, but that you both want the ceremony to be with just the two of you and no one else.  End of story. 
  • This sounds so much like my situation! I booked Antigua, didn't want no one to come. Just me and my fella. But his parents refused to stay in the UK and booked their flights and that. Had no choice but to invite family however no one can make it cos of the cost. Breaks my heart because I would rather have just me and him there and now his parents will be there and I cry all the time because my mum can't be there x
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