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Please remove discussion

simoneparkersimoneparker member
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edited January 2014 in Wedding Party
Delete. Sorry, can't figure out how to do this on my own. 
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Re: Please remove discussion

  • MairePoppyMairePoppy mod
    Moderator Knottie Warrior 5000 Comments 500 Love Its
    edited January 2014
    It's offensive to line your bms up in order of 'closeness' to you. The MOH stands closest to you, the bms stand in random order. It doesn't really make a difference, except for the fact that you told your fi you are putting his sister last because you feel closer to everyone else. 
                       
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  • doeydodoeydo member
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    It was not necessarily "the right thing to do now that she is family".  Your BMs should be those who are closest to you that you want standing with you on your wedding day, not asked out of obligation or something.  Anyway, that boat has sailed since you already asked her.  He was offended about where she stood during the ceremony?  He could have asked her to stand on his side if he was so concerned about his sister being in the wedding party and where she stands.  As for arranging who stands where, you could do it by who is closest (which would likely leave her on the end, fine) as long as you don't make it known that that is how you organized them.  Or, you could arrange them by height, alphabetically, or some other random way to avoid any possible drama.
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  • simoneparkersimoneparker member
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    edited January 2014
    I didn't mean to make it seem as if I felt obligated to ask her. I want her in the wedding. Choosing BM's and making things fair for everyone is becoming a nightmare. Maybe I'll do number of years known. Thanks.
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  • MairePoppyMairePoppy mod
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    Well, that makes sense. It's objective, at least. 
                       
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  • manateehuggermanateehugger member
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    Where does this by "closeness" or "importance" thing come from? What a shitty thing to do to your nearest and dearest. 

    I've always been lined up by height or alpha order. 
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  • simoneparkersimoneparker member
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    This is becoming ridiculous and taken out of context. Every bridesmaid in my wedding is close to me. I am simply looking for advice on etiquette.  
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  • Maggie0829Maggie0829 member
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    edited January 2014
    If everyone is close to you then why do you have to have a certain way to line them up? If you need to have the line up done for program purposes then put all the names in a hat and randomly pick them. How you pick them is how they are ordered.

    If you aren't doing programs then the day of the rehearsal tell the girls to line up however they want.

    Edited for spelling.

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  • MyNameIsNotMyNameIsNot member
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    simoneparker said:
    This is becoming ridiculous and taken out of context. Every bridesmaid in my wedding is close to me. I am simply looking for advice on etiquette.  
    The etiquette (that you should have learned in elementary school) is that you don't deliberately do things to hurt your friends, like ranking them in order of importance.

    Changing your original post is also poor etiquette.  People took the time to answer your question.  
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