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Wedding Party Dilemma....

Amkjagr3Amkjagr3 member
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So, my fiance is currently deployed and before he left we had discussed the number for our wedding party.  I wanted 6 attendents but, he insisted that he needed 8.  I finally agreed because I didn't want him to leave any of his best friends out if he felt that they should be standing up there with him.  I ended up asking his sister and sister-in-law and my 4 best friends; along with those 6 I asked 2 of my good friends from college.  Well, the issue is, since my fiance has been deployed he has realized that the 6 men he asked are all that he wants to have as groomsmen.  I know that it is more common to have uneven bridesmaids and groomsmen however I really do not like things being uneven.  So far this has been stressing me out more than any of the other planning!! Any advice is appreciated because I am truly stuck at this point.
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  • climbingsingleclimbingsingle member
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    Stop stressing. It doesn't matter. Have uneven sides. 
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  • pumpkinsandturkeyspumpkinsandturkeys member
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    If you've already asked your girls, you certainly can't drop any of them. Your only options at this point are to have an uneven number (which really isn't a big deal in the grand scheme of things), or have him add two more people -- if you're really dead-set on having even numbers.

    IMO, I would go with uneven. Adding two more GM that FI's not especially keen on may become a point of contention later. Plus, the bigger your bridal party, the bigger the costs!


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  • Maggie0829Maggie0829 member
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    Leave it alone.  The sky will not fall, the earth will not explode and the wedding police will not arrest you during your ceremony because your sides are uneven.

    And just out of curiosity, why do you NEED to have the sides even?

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  • Amkjagr3Amkjagr3 member
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    Trust me, I wish it didn't matter to me and that I would be perfectly ok with having uneven sides. When I was little I couldn't even stand to have one sock higher up than the other. I am aware that it might be a little OCD but unfortunately at 26 I don't think it's going to change anytime soon.

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  • tmclawchicktmclawchick member
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    It's pretty common to have uneven sides, I wouldn't stress over it. You certainly can't "un-ask" any of your ladies, and if your FI doesn't want to add 2 more, I'd just let it go. Good luck!

     

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  • pumpkinsandturkeyspumpkinsandturkeys member
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    I suggest finding something else to focus your energy on. Sometimes, you have to deal with things that make you uncomfortable -- especially during wedding planning. There will be plenty of other things to stress you out later on! Let this one go.


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  • climbingsingleclimbingsingle member
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    I'm sorry, but you need to get over it. I mean, what really are your options? Force your FI to pick two more people he's not close to? Hire actors? In 5 years, you won't care that your sides were uneven. 
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  • bethsmilesbethsmiles member
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    This is something you are just going to have to get over. The women you chose to stand next to you are so much more important than things being even. Besides on your wedding day the last thing you will be thinking about is even sides, in fact I bet you don't even notice - your FI is going to be the only thing you care about in that moment.

    And if seeing the uneven sides in pictures ruin that moment for you then you aren't really getting the point of getting married.


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  • melbelleupmelbelleup member
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    You could fire 2 of your people and call it a day. Oh, and you won't be friends with them after that.
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  • jdluvr06jdluvr06 member
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    OP if you really are OCD the yes this detail could drive you nuts. My friend has OCD and she focuses on the littlest details of things and can't let it go until it is fixed. If is something that can't Ben fixed she does this meditation ritual that helps calm some of her nerves. If you google it a ton of different relaxation methods for those with OCD will pop up.
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