How about no ring barer?

Kristen625 · January 2014

So FI and I aren't having a ring barer at our wedding. Here is my question. I know that the best man will have my ring because FI will get it from him to put on my finger, does my MOH have his ring? Or should the best man have both? Or maybe just give them to our officient, that may be the smoothest way to do it. I'm not sure. Any of you not having ring bearers or not having them hold the actual rings and have ideas on this?

majesty318 · January 2014

We are not having a ring bearer but I did not even think of who would have the rings! I guess the best man will have both...

kellibastien · January 2014

We are not having a ring bearer. I guess I just assumed the best man would have both rings?

chibiyui · January 2014

Usually the best man has the rings if there is no ring bearer.

luvskittles · January 2014

As far as I know, usually the ring bearer just has decoy rings (just in case he drops them), and the best man has the rings. We aren't doing any kids in the wedding either!

ArtTeacher23 · January 2014

No ring bearer for us either. I guess the best man will just have the rings. My conundrum is that I have 2 wedding bands, one that goes on each side of my engagement ring so I'm not sure what to do with the 3 rings and how to wear them for the ceremony.....guess I'll ask our officiant what he thinks about that.

ArtTeacher23 · January 2014

No ring bearer for us either. I guess the best man will just have the rings. My conundrum is that I have 2 wedding bands, one that goes on each side of my engagement ring so I'm not sure what to do with the 3 rings and how to wear them for the ceremony.....guess I'll ask our officiant what he thinks about that.

sarahsmiles326 · January 2014

For us, MOH will have his & best man will have mine.

tammym1001 · January 2014

When I was MOH in my sister's wedding the best man had her ring and I had her husband's. That way when the officiant asked for the rings I gave him the one he needed to hand to my sister on that side and BM gave him the one to had to the groom on their side. It probably wouldn't matter if the best man had both rings though.

pumpkinsandturkeys · January 2014

I think it can go either way -- you can choose for the MOH to hold onto his ring, or the BM can have both.

Bear in mind that your MOH will also have to hold on to her bouquet and your bouquet during the ceremony, and will often hang onto your engagement ring until after the ceremony (unless you choose to wear it during). Depending on the bouquets you choose, it may be difficult for her to juggle those and pull out/hand you FI's ring.

dluberts · January 2014

We're having my younger two boys each carry a ring.The one will take a ring to the moh and the other will take one to the bm. Then were gonna have them both sit with my parents. So we're being a little different.

Kristen625 · January 2014

Thanks ladies, all good ideas. I talked to FI about it before I posted, and I had TK up on the computer. He shrugged and pointed to the computer and said "you're on TK ask them!" lol. I think because my MOH will be carrying two bouquets already I'll either have the best man hold onto both, or just give them to the officiant.

klburke88 · January 2014

No ring bearer for us, either. Plan on having the best man hold both rings. What are you ladies planning on doing with your engagement ring during the ceremony? I know the wedding band is supposed to go first on your finger. You can put the wedding band on behind the engagement ring, and then switch them after the ceremony, or wear the engagement ring on your right hand. I'm thinking of doing the latter.

ArtTeacher23 · January 2014

@klburke88 That's my dilemma - I've got 2 separate wedding bands that go on either side of my engagement ring so I've got know idea what to do with that during the ceremony! FI said when he bought the rings the guy at the store said there were specific meanings to each ring but he can't remember what they are.....

ArtTeacher23 · January 2014

@klburke88 That's my dilemma - I've got 2 separate wedding bands that go on either side of my engagement ring so I've got know idea what to do with that during the ceremony! FI said when he bought the rings the guy at the store said there were specific meanings to each ring but he can't remember what they are.....

pumpkinsandturkeys · January 2014

My engagement ring won't fit on my right hand, so that one's not an option for me.

I'm on the fence about wearing it during the ceremony. Part of me isn't sure about giving it to my MOH to hold onto simply because I don't know where she would put it, and I know I'll want to put it back on right after the ceremony.

akopitzke · January 2014

@ArtTeacher23 I read somewhere about a bride that got her wedding band and engagement ring soldered before the ceremony and then her FI just have the pair to put on during. This might be a good idea for you with having two bands?

dluberts · January 2014

I waw sjust gonna say have them soldered together.

Kristen625 · January 2014

Yeah my best friend had the exact same thing, two bands to go on either side of the engagement ring. Her husband surprised her with them soldered together the night before the wedding when we were all decorating the reception hall. I was the MOH and I didn't hold any rings now that I think about it. But they may have had a ring bearer, I don't remember cause it was almost 10 years ago! Lol.

tammym1001 · January 2014

I'm having my rings soldered together before the wedding too so that he will put both of them on at the same time. I will probably have my MOH hang onto my ring before the wedding only because I'm nervous about giving that his responsibility to his BM. LOL

How about no ring barer?

Re: How about no ring barer?

Choose Another Board

Search Boards