invitation arrival time wording

Re: invitation arrival time wording

• kmmssg mod

  

  January 2014

  My guardian/uncle would have been your nightmare.  I always told people he would arrive for his own funeral an hour early.  When we were making funeral arrangements for my guardian/aunt, we were an hour early.  That was big fun right there with another family there on time (and ahead of us) to make arrangements for their loved one.

  
  

  Can you get your mom/aunts/anyone else you deem helpful to start spreading this by word of mouth? Personally I think it is BS to have such a policy when this is something outside of your control, but that doesn't help.

  
  

  Since this is a venue requirement I think you could put something on your reception cards like, "Venue policy prohibits guests from arriving more than 30 minutes prior to the wedding.  We appreciate your cooperation in this matter" or something much better worded.

  
  

  I would definitely start getting this out there when people ask about the wedding.

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• stef42188 member

  

  January 2014

  Thank you for the advice - I do think my mom can remind her aunts and uncles - hopefully they will remember on the day of! I think addressing it on the reception card is a good idea, or on an insert with the directions. I just don't want it to come across as rude. And it is a BS policy, but the vineyard is a vineyard first and a wedding site second, so I think it has to do with them not wanting wine tastings to get in the way of a wedding and vice versa

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• JoanE2012 member

  

  January 2014

  stef42188 said:

  I am looking for some advice on how to politely address this situation. We are having our ceremony and reception at a vineyard, and our contract states that there is a $500 extra charge if more than ten guests arrive before 5pm. The ceremony will start at 530pm (it will, I promise - I think fake start times are rude), but I am worried that some guests would arrive before 5. Is there a polite way to say, "please arrive anytime after 5pm"? I have thought about just addressing the arrival time on the website and not the invite, but the people I am most concerned about arriving early (i.e., great aunts and uncles) do not use the internet. Also, we are having a welcome signature cocktail before they take their seats for the ceremony, so I want to be sure they have enough time to enjoy that - is a half hour enough time? 

  Honestly, I'd just factor the $500 into your budget.  If you don't end up paying it, great.....but I am always early, and if it were at a vineyard (and I was coming from a bit of a distance), I might find myself there a bit before 5pm to roam the area and take pictures!  

  
  

  FWIW, we definitely had more than 10 people milling in the lobby of our venue more than 30 min. ahead of time.  We had alot of OOT people that drove in that day too.  If you have more local people, it might not be as much of an issue.

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• stef42188 member

  

  January 2014

  Thanks for the feedback - I think we actually did include it in our budget just in case ha.. I just didn't want it being too awkward with the vineyard having tastings still if guests got there before 5pm. Luckily everyone is in-state... and CT is small, so it's not usually more than 1.5 hours from any part of the state to the other. 

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