Our wedding is at the end of March, and the only thing we've had drama/stress about is the stupid wedding list. I originally wanted a small wedding, but after realizing how big my fiance's family is I accepted that we are going to have a bigger wedding. We are already sending invitations to 250 people, which may not seem big to everyone but for me that is very big.
Well 2 days ago (keep in mind the wedding is in 2 1/2 months), my fiance's uncle e-mailed him and said that his daughter (who is much older than my fiance, and does not live in the same state) will be in town with her husband and their FIVE kids for spring break and would love to be invited to the wedding. Number one, I couldn't believe how rude it was to basically invite someone to another person's wedding, and SEVEN extra people at that. I didn't know what else we could say, so we said that we would invite them. But I was just shocked, and it really bothers me that someone would do that.
Now, my fiance's godmother (who was his mom's best friend) is helping with the shower guest list and she asked me if we should invite my fiance's sister-in-law's mother. I told her that she wasn't even invited to the wedding. His godmother then said that we really should invite her because she was close to my fiance's mother (who passed away almost 4 years ago) and put flowers on her grave this Christmas. I'm sorry, and I hope this doesn't come across as insensitive, but we cannot invite EVERY person who his mom was close to! When we first started the guest list my fiance's godmother asked us to invited 6 women that his mother was very close to her entire life, and I did that gladly even though we were trying to have a small wedding because I know it was important to her. Now she wants us to invite my future sister-in-law's mother, who lives in the same town as us and I have never even met, so it's not like she's close to the family... and she has also mentioned a few other people that we should invite that were "close" to his mom.
I don't know how else I can tell people that our guest list is closed without being rude... but I seriously think I will lose my mind if one more person either 1) asks us to invite someone else to OUR wedding or 2) tells me that his mom would've wanted someone there. I think that's ultimate low blow because there's literally nothing I can say to rebuke that and it's really unfair to guilt trip me/us. I feel like a brat complaining about this, but I'm seriously about to lose it...