Vow Renewal

Re: Vow Renewal

• AddieCake member

  

  January 2014

  Here is a good website with helpful info for vow renewals. Good luck!

  
  

  http://www.idotaketwo.com/
  

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• RebeccaB88 member

  

  January 2014

  I think the main thing to remember about vow renewals is that they aren't second weddings. They aren't like weddings at all. They're really just a party (usually an anniversary party) with a short ceremony embedded. I know some women want to wear a traditional wedding dress, especially if they didn't get to wear one when they got married, but that's technically considered inappropriate. No bridal party/attendants, no first dance, no ceremonial cake cutting, no being escorted down the aisle. I would get an outfit that makes you feel fantastic, line up a great venue with plenty of food and beverage, hire a DJ, and before the party gets going have someone lead you and your husband in reaffirming your vows. Then enjoy your party.
  
  Truthfully, I can't think of anyone I'd attend a destination vow renewal for, except maybe my own parents. And they would have thought a destination vow renewal was silly.  If your family is on board with traveling, though, I don't see a problem with it. Just know that not everyone you want there will be willing or able to go, and you can't be upset with that.
  

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• artbyallie mod

  

  January 2014

  Generally speaking, just don't pretend to be a bride and groom, because you're already husband and wife.

  
  

  I have to agree with @RebeccaB88 that I wouldn't be inclined to attend a destination vow renewal. I'd frankly rather have a kickass tenth anniversary vacation with just my husband (actually, we might be doing just that in Ireland when we reach that point... we're only at the two and a half year mark now).

  
  

  Why do your vows need renewing? This concept always puzzles me since mine were for life.

  

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• OliveOilsMom member

  

  January 2014

  Medda313 said:

  My husband and I are currently planning our vow renewal, now neither us have ever been to a vow renewal only second weddings.We are paying for everything ourselves, and my husband would prefer to do the renewal at Disney. My family lives in Texas and his(and us) live in Virginia. Our anniversary is in March, and it would be after our 10year anniversary.Now we would likely have to do it in December(over Winter Break) or during the Summer, since we want my neices there and they are both still in school and will be at the time. His father,who he wants there, takes medication that makes it so he can NOT be outside in the heat without getting sick making us lean more towards December.
  
  We are wondering if there is etiquette for Vow Renewals or Destination Weddings/Vow Renewals we need to be aware of or follow?
  
  I will say that we eloped before due to parent drama over planning, so at the time we decided to go to the JOP and then have a renewal later when we could pay for it all ourselves.
  

  Ditto PPs.  While in high school, my friends parents renewed their vows on a cruise for their 25th anniversary.  The only people they took on the cruise was their daughter.  Their neighbors also went with them, but the only reason that happened was because they always vacationed together regularly.  Does your family usually take group vacations like this? 

  

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• Medda313 member

  

  January 2014

  Yes and no. When i was younger we used to all the time, but in the last few years we haven't because they bought a restaurant and destroyed their finances. So they haven't went on any since then. But, I'm getting a large settlement in a few years and was wanting to take my nieces to Disney World(the oldest hasn't been since she was 2 i think, and the youngest never has), my husband then had the idea to do a Vow Renewal then since we were already going to be paying for them and parents to go.
  
  We would easily have enough to help some of the other family attend as well, and we hadn't planned on asking any friends,especially as December seems to be when we could get everyone together. At the moment it seems like it would just be us, my parents and 2 nieces, and his father(possibly his step-mother).
  
  The main reason i was asking about the etiquette for a Vow Renewal is the Disney package, even when selecting vow renewal, seems very weddingish and i wasn't sure if that would be in bad taste or not.
  

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• happyfor25 member

  

  January 2014

  Medda313 said:

  Yes and no. When i was younger we used to all the time, but in the last few years we haven't because they bought a restaurant and destroyed their finances. So they haven't went on any since then. But, I'm getting a large settlement in a few years and was wanting to take my nieces to Disney World(the oldest hasn't been since she was 2 i think, and the youngest never has), my husband then had the idea to do a Vow Renewal then since we were already going to be paying for them and parents to go.
  
  We would easily have enough to help some of the other family attend as well, and we hadn't planned on asking any friends,especially as December seems to be when we could get everyone together. At the moment it seems like it would just be us, my parents and 2 nieces, and his father(possibly his step-mother).
  
  The main reason i was asking about the etiquette for a Vow Renewal is the Disney package, even when selecting vow renewal, seems very weddingish and i wasn't sure if that would be in bad taste or not.
  

  My husband and I had a 25th anniversary party/vow reaffirmation in March '13.  We had it in a hotel ballroom and booked the hotel's wedding package.  We tweaked it to suit our needs but that made the most sense for us (flowers on the tables, food and open bar, anniversary cake).

  
  

  When you say the Disney package seems wedding-ish, what do you mean?  What does it include?

  
  

  Oh and congrats on 10 years!

  

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