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Guest List and Work Friends

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I am putting together my guest list with my fiance and since we met at our previous job, we want to invite work friends. I was just wondering what the proper etiquette is regarding inviting work friends with spouses. We have never met the spouses of the people we worked with, so would it be rude to just invite the work friends minus their spouses? Or is it a rule of thumb to invite the work friends with their respective spouse? Thanks so much!
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  • jessicabessicajessicabessica member
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    The rule of thumb is to invite every guest with her/his spouse. So, yes, invite work friends with their spouses/SOs.
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  • HisGirlFriday13HisGirlFriday13 member
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    lindseyfera said:
    I am putting together my guest list with my fiance and since we met at our previous job, we want to invite work friends. I was just wondering what the proper etiquette is regarding inviting work friends with spouses. We have never met the spouses of the people we worked with, so would it be rude to just invite the work friends minus their spouses? Or is it It is a rule of thumb to invite the work *ALL* friends with their respective spouse?. Thanks so much! You're welcome!
    First bold: Yes, it would be horribly rude to invite ANYONE without their spouse.

    Second bold: FTFY. Invite all people with their spouse or SOs, regardless of: marital status, whether you know or like the SO, how long they've been dating, whether they're living together or not, whether they're engaged or not, whether you think it's serious or not. If they publicly identify as a couple, they get invited together, by name.
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  • Amyzen83Amyzen83 member
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    Co-workers or not if they are close enough to you to invite to the wedding, you treat them like every other guest and like His Girl said, you invite all SOs.
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  • Jen4948Jen4948 member
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    Co-workers have to be invited with their SOs, just like every other guest.
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  • huskypuppy14huskypuppy14 member
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    They're just coworkers, clearly not important enough to invite with their husbands or wives.
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  • Amyzen83Amyzen83 member
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    My sister told me that for her wedding she "talked with her co-workers" and they can just go together, because I guess because you work together that totes makes you BFFs right?
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  • yogablossomyogablossom member
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    @Amyzen83--that's what I wasn't sure about, because they are all older than me, (40s-60s) and have been working together for several years. They will most definitely be seated together but maybe would have more fun going as friends, was what I was originally thinking. But if it's rude not to invite their husbands, I suppose I'll have to!
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  • JCbride2015JCbride2015 member
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    lindseyfera said: @Amyzen83--that's what I wasn't sure about, because they are all older than me, (40s-60s) and have been working together for several years. They will most definitely be seated together but maybe would have more fun going as friends, was what I was originally thinking. But if it's rude not to invite their husbands, I suppose I'll have to!
     Yep!  It is rude to invite     any guest without his/her significant other.  As HisGirl says: anybody who publicly identifies as a couple, gets invited as a couple.  So yeah, you have to invite their husbands/wives.  And props for accepting advice you maybe didn't want to hear!
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  • yogablossomyogablossom member
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    It isn't necessarily BAD news to invite their spouses, I just was thinking they'd have more fun without their husbands--this is based solely on my experiences with them at work always talking about how obnoxious their husbands are haha!
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  • huskypuppy14huskypuppy14 member
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    The fact that you would exclude people's spouses, makes me think you are also not inviting other people's significant others. Every adult has to be invited with their boyfriend, girlfriend, fiance, and of course spouse- no exceptions. It's very rude to invite someone to celebrate your marriage (relationship) by excluding theirs. 
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  • yogablossomyogablossom member
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    No, no! Sorry to give you that impression--I'm not excluding anyone! I was just wasn't sure about work people, that's all. It's been cleared up.
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  • Amyzen83Amyzen83 member
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    Op I understand the logic but i think it's great you will invite their so's they can decide for themselves whether it would be fun to go without them or to bring them. Anyway best of luck!
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  • huskypuppy14huskypuppy14 member
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    lindseyfera said:
    It isn't necessarily BAD news to invite their spouses, I just was thinking they'd have more fun without their husbands--this is based solely on my experiences with them at work always talking about how obnoxious their husbands are haha!
    If they want to go without their husbands, that is their choice, not yours.  Glad you're taking our advice!
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  • yogablossomyogablossom member
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    laurynm84--good point! I'll just leave it up to them to decide. At least they'll have the option. Thanks so much!
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