So it's possible you've seen my other posts on FMIL's attempts at monopolizing the guest list and other aspects of the wedding, so suffice to say, I have already been a tad annoyed with her throughout this process.
Last night, I'm laying on FI's lap as he reads his email and I see one from his mom, with our wedding in the subject line. I ask him what she was talking about and he opens up the email for me to read. Evidently she had sent an email to FI's dad, requesting that he contribute half the cost of a welcome party at this local restaurant/bar, the night before the wedding. Some other weddings me, FI, and his mom had been to recently featured such a thing, hosted by the groom's parents, and she thought it was a nice touch. Great, right?
That's what I thought until I read the next line, where she said that this would be for their side of the family and their friends. In other words, not to include mine.
Am I totally off base in being enraged by this? My mom is paying for the entire wedding and has made no qualms about paying $130 per plate for every single person on FI's side, and yet, when FMIL decides she'd like to host something, it's going to be at the exclusion of my side? What does she think, that I'm going to go to her event, the night before my wedding, and neglect to see my own friends and family who have flown in town to see us?
Maybe I'm overreacting, but that to me is incredibly rude. If you don't want to host for everyone invited to the wedding, don't. I'd have no problem with that whatsoever. But to say you're going to host a welcome party for only half of the invited guests, to me, is rude and comes across as a tiered wedding event, and I just can't believe that after my mom has been so generous, she would have the audacity to even think that way.
Ugh.