We still want our wedding weekend to be fun and lively and include our friends, but we also aren't sure having a wedding party is for us.
Here are the circumstances to consider
1) My fiance lived in the same place his whole life and has a close group of friends.
2) I moved around a lot and my closest friends don't even know each other.
3) We both lived in So Cal and that is where all his friends live, but we now live in Chicago, and are getting married in Cape Cod, Mass.
4) My 2 friends who do live in Chicago are the only 2 who know each other and they don't get along.
5) He has a brother and I have a sister, each of us stood witness in their weddings, so it would be acceptable to simply have them do the same.
6) Every wedding album I see online has great photos of wedding parties, they always look like they're having a blast, and I feel like I might regret not having those memories if we have our (older than us, married, with children) siblings instead of bridesmaids and groomsmen.
7) We are only inviting a small number of friends- Too big to have all of our friends be IN the wedding, too small a number to comfortably exclude the others (2-4 people) as "the only friends not in the wedding."
Phew. Ok. Those are circumstances.
How I feel about it: Organizing a wedding party with most of the people we would ask living in CA while we live in IL for a wedding in MA sounds like it would be difficult and doesn't seem like we should, but I really don't want to regret not doing it later..
Any input welcome!
Thanks!