I got engaged just over a week ago to my boyfriend of six years. We have been living together for three years. Now my mother and grandmother (neither of which is helping at all monetarily with the wedding) are saying that I am planning an extravagant $10,000 wedding for the many family members they are making me invite. My grandmother went so far as to say that I do not "deserve" to have a nice wedding since we have already been living together! They are not paying for a single thing, (my mother claims she would pay for the whole wedding if my fiancé and I had not been living together--which is a total and complete lie. Just tell me you don't want to pay!) they have absolutely NO RIGHT to tell me what I can do with my money for my wedding. This should be a happy time when we can all rejoice and celebrate, but they are ruining this whole experience for me! Any suggestions?