I don't see the point in picking a day and then finding out the venue you love doesn't have the day open (come on, we've seen the posts on here). Decided to also make the guest list to know how many people we need room for.
Had the chapel picked out for a couple years and it only seats 65 people. Guest list ballooned up, decided some would have to only be invited to the reception. Contacted first choice reception venue because the owner personally told us they had a wedding there the previous weekend. Was told they don't allow weddings there. FI asked if I wanted to pull the owner card to try and argue our way in but I said I didn't want to go to the trouble and be a bridezilla. Contacted second choice venue. The main room we don't have enough people for. The other room isn't available even for decorating before 7pm. Contacted 3rd choice reception venue, had an absolute heart attack over the cost. Decided would have to look outside of the city where I live cause I won't even consider the other reception venue options available because they are not very me and my FI.
Looked at a church I'd thought about years ago wanting to get married at. Found a reception venue that's doable that I'd also looked at previously with the church. Both venues can hold more than our current guest list, meaning everyone can be invited to ceremony and reception plus our parents can invite more friends. Church gets back to me that they're completely booked every weekend for the month I wanted.
I want to go with the church and reception site, so now to decide on a new month, let alone date. Have narrowed it down to 3 different months. FI will give no input in the decision. All I keep thinking about is just picking the damn day but am worried that when I do, it'll get to be months from now and I'll want to change it. I've gone so far as to consult the Farmers Almanac and looking up Chinese auspicious wedding dates (and neither of us are East Asian at all).
I'm leaning towards March 2015 and want a Saturday, so that leaves the 7th, 14th, 21st, and 28th. My birthday is the 21st. I thought that would be fun until I wanted to see what others thought and Googled it. Found a post where someone else was seeking an opinion on getting married on their birthday. A commenter replied that in the unfortunate event that you get divorced it would make you hate your birthday, so that's out. The 7th is MOH's birthday and I'm worried it would be like stealing her day. But I'm planning a morning wedding and brunch reception, so she'd still have the evening and night to party. She's really chill, so I don't think she'd care much anyway. I just keep looking and looking for something out there to make me decide on the date and haven't hit it. So that's why I'm so stressed out is because I can't pick a date and my muscles are in knots.