Do I even want to get married?

Re: Do I even want to get married?

• KytchynWitche member

  

  January 2014

  A friend of mine made a similar comment to me when I mentioned that I was taking a break from wedding planning. 

  
  

  I don't know where the notion comes from that any engaged woman must constantly be thinking about and actively planning her wedding or they don't really want to get married, but I think movies like Bride Wars do a lot to encourage it.

  
  

  If a marathon athlete takes a break from their training, does that automatically mean they don't want to compete in the marathon? If an artist takes a break from their project, does that mean they don't want to be an artist anymore?

  
  

  It's just totally ridiculous.

  

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• firebabe6519 member

  

  January 2014

  I'm sorry! What a horrible thing to say! Everyone needs a break now and then. Coming back with fresh eyes is how you catch mistakes or find some new little aspect to tweak.

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• Cookie Pusher member

  

  January 2014

  Yuck, I'm sorry you were put in that situation! I agree with PPs - everyone needs a break from what they're doing, even if they love doing it. I mean, just because a couple wants to get a sitter and have a date night doesn't mean they don't love their kids anymore, right? Sometimes, you just need a chance to step back and breathe!

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• JennyColada member

  

  January 2014

  It can be a valid question. Especially with something that can hold as much pressure as a wedding, I think some people end up going through with it out of a sense of obligation.
  
  Although she was pretty quick to jump to that assumption, and anyone who knows anything about you would probably see that you're just frustrated at the moment, not at the whole idea.

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• hlvonb member

  

  January 2014

  urbaneca said:

  A friend of mine made a similar comment to me when I mentioned that I was taking a break from wedding planning. 

  
  

  I don't know where the notion comes from that any engaged woman must constantly be thinking about and actively planning her wedding or they don't really want to get married, but I think movies like Bride Wars do a lot to encourage it.

  
  

  If a marathon athlete takes a break from their training, does that automatically mean they don't want to compete in the marathon? If an artist takes a break from their project, does that mean they don't want to be an artist anymore?

  
  

  It's just totally ridiculous.

  @urbaneca

  
  

  Exactly! I just rolled my eyes. Yes planning the wedding IS important but not at the risk of me becoming overly stressed or anything. And I really do not think taking a 2 day break is a big deal. It's not like my wedding is this week and we have to still finalize things.

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• hlvonb member

  

  January 2014

  firebabe6519 said:

  I'm sorry! What a horrible thing to say! Everyone needs a break now and then. Coming back with fresh eyes is how you catch mistakes or find some new little aspect to tweak.

  @firebabe6519

  
  

  Yes I agree everyone needs a break. Planning a wedding on top of my new promotion at work can be a bit tricky at times - especially when sometimes I have to do work related things for a little while on the weekends (when I am supposed to be off on weekends.)

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• hlvonb member

  

  January 2014

  Jennycolada said:

  It can be a valid question. Especially with something that can hold as much pressure as a wedding, I think some people end up going through with it out of a sense of obligation. Although she was pretty quick to jump to that assumption, and anyone who knows anything about you would probably see that you're just frustrated at the moment, not at the whole idea.

  @Jennycolada

  
  

  Yes it can be a valid question but my mother (of all people) should know that I totally DO want to get married and that planning a wedding (when we're at the point where we're finalizing bigger things and paying people, etc, etc) and having a new promotion at work can add some extra stress from time to time.

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• EverAfer member

  

  January 2014 edited January 2014

  I get that weird look from people when they ask how wedding planning is going, and I replied, haven't done much since before the holidays.  Other than thinking about stuff and writing things down, we haven't done too much and that is lovely. 
  
  It is perfectly fine to take a break from wedding planning here and there and have some free time.  Free "me" time too!  Though I do need to get back into it, it has been nice to just focus on the holidays.
  

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• Cokezerofreak member

  

  January 2014

  I've taken some nice long breaks then try and get some things done fast because I feel I was late. No break time now, though.  Only 68 days to go.  OMG 68 days!
  

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• Crystal03jc member

  

  January 2014

  Wedding planning can make you crazy!  Lol so I try not to think about it too much.  We have gotten things done and we still have stuff to buy but we have 3 months+ and it'll all get done and be bought.  Need to figure out the cake and decorations, MOH, bridesmaids & flowergirl all need dresses, Groomsmen and BM all need to be fitted, need to get my fiance's ring, send out invites.. in due time it'll get done.  I think alot of people stress way too much!  I think everything will go smoothly, I'm nervous about standing in front of a church full of friends/family and of course hoping I don't gain weight before the wedding.. my dress is snug perfect fit and it would be terrible if I didn't fit in it!
  

   

  

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