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Help! Gift etiquette question

kendraloveeekendraloveee member
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I am currently shopping for gifts for my parents, and I found a beautiful gift for my mother with a saying on it: "All I am, I owe to my Mother". I loved it, but then I started wondering...do both of us (my fiancé and I) get separate gifts for our parents, or what? If I were to get this gift for my mother, should he get a separate gift for her as well? Or is it that each of us get gifts for our own parents only? Help! I'm so confused...what's the traditional etiquette?
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  • AddieCakeAddieCake member
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    You get your own parents gifts.
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  • phiraphira member
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    We're VERY likely going to be getting our parents gifts "as a couple," but we might not do it until after the wedding so our gift can be a wedding album.
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  • netskyblue2netskyblue2 member
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    You have to get your parents gifts for your own wedding?  I've honestly never heard of such a thing!
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  • MobKazMobKaz member
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    edited January 2014
    netskyblue2 said: You have to get your parents gifts for your own wedding?  I've honestly never heard of such a thing!



     You don't     have to do anything. 

     In some areas it is more of a tradition to gift the parents with a wedding photograph or album.  The gesture is seen as a gift of thanks for their support over the years as a parent.  For others, it can also be in appreciation for any financial support given toward the wedding.  Some couples gift the parents wedding related items, while others select gifts of a more personal nature.  Most couples I know at the very least write heartfelt cards to their parents.


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  • wrigleyvillewrigleyville member
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    Correct. It doesn't have to be expensive, just heartfelt. I also had friends who wrote letters, and their mothers saved them as part of the wedding album.

    We both got our parents some small things, and then we put together wedding albums for each set of parents. It was much cheaper than having the photographer do it, and we had fun picking photos. It wasn't quite a scrapbook, but close. They loved it.
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  • Jen4948Jen4948 member
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    netskyblue2 said:
    You have to get your parents gifts for your own wedding?  I've honestly never heard of such a thing!
    It's not a requirement.

    But I think that what other PPs mean is that if you're going to do this, each of you should give your respective parents gifts just from yourselves rather than as a couple.
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  • csuavecsuave member
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    I did a very mother-daughter specific gift to my mom and also a personalized gift to my dad.  When they were at my house the day before the wedding and no one else was around I gave them the gifts privately. 

    DH did not get anything for his parents before the wedding because he didn't have any ideas for them.  I probably would have skipped my gifts too if I didn't have any specific ideas.

    Now, after the wedding, we are making photobooks that we will give together to each set of parents and we already gave them a framed 5x7 photo of a family formal wedding picture since those took less time to get together.

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