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RD Invites

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My mother, fiance and I are unsure if we need to send out rehearsal dinner invitations? This subject came up when I was looking at a checklist online and it said something about sending rehearsal dinner invitations.

We were wondering what the etiquette is on this? We will have some wedding party family members in town for the rehearsal because they are out of state (example: my FSIL is a bridesmaid but they live in Iowa so her husband and kids would be there (at rehearsal) too) and they are more than welcome to come to the dinner. Would they get an invitation? If so, is it just for the non wedding party people or for everyone (including the people in the party)??
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  • Teddy917Teddy917 member
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    I think you can just give all the people that your inviting to the rehearsal dinner a call or email with the information.
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  • phiraphira member
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    The only invitation to a rehearsal dinner that I've personally received was for my brother's wedding. It was an Evite. For my future brother-in-law's wedding, we were just told that we were going (not in an offensive way, we just knew we were going, and plans were made).
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  • hlvonbhlvonb member
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    Thanks!
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  • banana468banana468 member
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    I've never seen a invitation to a RD and I've been to many. If it's not huge, you can probably coordinate by email.
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  • lyndausvilyndausvi mod
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    Half the time I've received them, half the time I have not.   We did not send them out and spread the word via word of mouth.  Worked for us.   








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  • indianaalumindianaalum member
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    We just told people. We had made invitations, but got so busy, we never send them! LOL
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  • KateJ16KateJ16 member
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    We actually just sent ours out - I know we didn't have to, but thought it would be nice so all SOs would know times for rehearsal and dinner as well as the bridal party. Plus I found some cute wording online and took it as a sign :)

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  • KaurisKauris member
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    So it is okay, just not required?
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  • mrsetwinmiller2bmrsetwinmiller2b member
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    I think you'd be fine without them, but please, please clearly communicate the information about the rehearsal dinner to your bridal party.  For the last wedding I was in, the bride and groom just expected that everyone would know about the rehearsal dinner and where it was and how to get there.  As my FI and I were getting ready to go to dinner after the rehearsal, everyone started talking about the rehearsal dinner that we knew nothing about.  Luckily, we didn't have reservations or anything.
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  • LizM61409LizM61409 member
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    Would it be okay to have an insert in the invite with a RD invite? (Obviously only for those who are invited to the RD). I feel like it saves a step with additional envelopes, addressing them, and stamps but would like to get others' opinions on this before we do it
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  • dolewhipperdolewhipper member
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    I'd add it to any info you're giving OOT guests (if you're having gift bags made for them, insert info there) and do an e-vite/email/(private)fb event for those in town a bit more familiar.


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  • hlvonbhlvonb member
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    Thanks!
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  • cruffinocruffino member
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    We invited around 60 so we sent a formal invite just to keep things organized.
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