Nightmares

tabathafaye · January 2014

Anyone else have anxiety ridden nightmares about their upcoming wedding? I had one last night were everything went wrong that could go wrong.

Nothing was planned
Our venue is a golf club, and they are to close a few hours before our ceremony. In the dream, they were open and there were lots of strangers there. Playing golf on the ceremony site!
I didn't know where my dress was
Wedding party was no where to be found
I forgot to shave!!!
Much more!

Woke up and was thankful it was just a dream! Luckily I know none of this stuff will really happen, but it stinks having them.

thejucheidea · January 2014

I never had nightmares, but the entire wedding process was a waking nightmare, so... I guess my brain didn't have space to make me dream about it too.

Chipmunk415 · January 2014

I had one a week ago, around the time of my first fitting. Dreamt I got to venue, only to find out my mom thought I didn't want all the beautiful beading on the bodice and didn't want to keep the tulle overlay skirt with scalloped edging, and removed it all. My dress looked like the rope and sail "outfit" worn by Ariel in The Little Mermaid.

Now just having panic attacks that I will go over budget, even though I'm on track to come in under budget, because I'm a scrooge who doesn't like giving people a lot of money.

mcgarci2 · January 2014

I've had two dreams over the last month. In one, I was the only one setting up chairs, while my family sat on their bums. I screamed at them to help me and they just looked at me. I had to put my dress on by myself and run to the back to get ready.

In the other dream, I forgot to send invitations so only 10 people were there, the slideshow was played at the wrong time, I forgot to get the gifts for my parents and in-laws, they were serving the wrong food and at the wrong time, people were upstairs moving tables around making screeching sounds, the list goes on! I woke up panicked, but relieved to see it was just a dream. It's so weird to have these dreams!

doeydo · January 2014

Yes, mostly about my dress not fitting or me buying a dress I later realized I hated.

tabathafaye · January 2014

Had another bad dream last night. I wouldn't call it a nightmare compared to the last one.

This time the wedding coordinator left after only being there for 10 minutes...

Amyzen83 · January 2014

YES!!! This one was the worse and it actually made me depressed throughout my day, when I was telling my fiancé about it, I started crying.

I dreamt that my mom was not going to end up giving us the money she promised she would for the wedding, and then we had this lawyer who suggested that we trick my mom into selling one of her kidneys and we use that money to pay for it. IT WAS HORRIBLE! I actually dreamt that I saw the process and it sold for about 200k, and I felt hella guilty that my FI and I ever agreed to such a terrible thing, that I refused the money and decided to give it to my mom. But the dream ended well because it turned out it my mom didn't know what I was talking about because she still had both her kidneys and it was somebody else, but it was still hella sad.

FYI, this was after my FI and I had a disagreement about our wedding budget, and clearly this is after watching too much Breaking Bad and Dexter :-/

edit* BTW I texted my mom that day to see how she was doing (to make sure she was ok) and I told her a snippet about the dream and told her she doesn't have to sell her kidneys to help pay for our wedding and she laughed at me.

AddieCake · January 2014

Mine stopped when I stopped thinking or talking about the wedding in bed.

Noey88 · January 2014

I get them all the time! The last one I had my dad couldn't be found, the church was too small, it was pouring rain, and my dress was horrible. I woke up crying and my poor fiancé had to calm me down.

kittypolishnbags · January 2014

AddieL73 said:

Mine stopped when I stopped thinking or talking about the wedding in bed.

Mine wasn't a regular nightmare but a living nightmare - I couldn't sleep. I had a hard time sleeping for 2 weeks. I was thinking about things too much. Once I got to a point where I no longer stressed about it since I stopped thinking as much, I slept like a baby.

SBbride67 · January 2014

I think almost every bride has had nightmares like this at one time for another. Heck, even one of my bridesmaids, who's helping me a lot with the planning, told me that she had a nightmare!

Just acknowledge that there is no such thing as "the perfect wedding" and that something (hopefully a small thing) will go wrong on your special day. Ultimately, what matters is not how you wed but who you wed.

lovesclimbing · January 2014

Oh yes! I had a few. In one of them, my FI was ambivalent about getting married. He was just "yea, sure, lets get married, I guess. Why not?" He assured me when I told him that he very much wanted to marry me!

In another one, I went to the church before the wedding and saw that the cake and cupcakes had arrived. Anyway, this girl who used to be an acquaintance in high school, who was not invited, was there and she was eating the cupcakes and had already eaten about half of them! (She has always been very overweight.) So she sees the cake and she wants to eat it too. And I told her NO and that she had to get out of the church. But she wouldn't leave. So I picked up the cake and started to walk outside. She wanted the cake so she followed me. She followed me outside and then I turned around and ran back in with the cake and locked her out!

In another one, we were in Miami at this certain hotel I've stayed in before. It was the day before the wedding and suddenly, we realized we'd forgotten to send invitations. So we were frantically calling up people and saying, "Hey, you wanna come to the wedding? It's, umm, tomorrow." Also, I kept finding more and more stains on my wedding dress.

They will end eventually. But nightmares, you just have to ignore them. They don't mean anything. I had one about three months after the wedding where H was cheating on me and I began a relationship with a much older (like 25 years older. I'm friends with his kids and he's a friend of my dad!) married man. You'll always have nightmares about things but just try to forget them.

grumbledore · January 2014

Yup, all the time. Particularly about the caterer not showing up.

tabathafaye · January 2014

Some of these made me giggle.

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