So my FFIL just sent my fiance and email, stating that my fiance's grandmother (who lives with fiance's parents) came to him very upset, admitting that her step-grandson (father in law's brother's step-son, I think that's what he'd be?) is having his wedding the same date as ours, 10/11/14. She said she'd known about it since they picked it out "a year ago" and failed to say anything about it when we were planning our dates.
Anyway, my FFIL emailed my fiance in a very polite, courteous manner, asking him basically if we could change our date (which we already moved from 10/25/14 at his request). We are paying for this whole wedding on our own--no help from the parents. We've already booked and paid 1/3 of the caterer. We've booked and deposited money on the photographer (Who is only available Oct. 11 and 25). Anyway, just to let my fiance say we tried, I called the caterer to see if they have any other dates open in October--and they actually have all four weekends open.
I've already made my STDs, and, at the risk of TMI--adjusted the timing of my period via my birth control so that it works out with the wedding date.
My fiance responded very politely to his father and explained the situation with the photographer and the fact that Oct 25 would be too chilly for an outdoors wedding where we live.
FFIL CALLED THE CATERER. And responded to my fiance saying "Oh well they have September 27th available."
Yes, I could technically re-do all the STDs and adjust the timing of my period AGAIN to accommodate these random out of state relatives who might not come to the wedding and his grandmother. But my issue is that he CALLED THE CATERER. TO CHECK UP ON ME.
Maybe I'm just PMSing, but I just think that's rude.