Non-Traditional Wedding Invite wording... Opinons needed?

Re: Non-Traditional Wedding Invite wording... Opinons needed?

• JoanE2012 member

  

  January 2014

  ShellD13 said:

  Most invites list the Bride first and then reference the Groom but the way I look at it is the Groom is supposed to be the head of the household so I think I want to give my fiance top billing on the invite.
  
  Together with their families
  
  Groom's First and Middle
  
  and
  
  My First and Middle
  
  invite you to join them as they are married on.....
  
  Has anyone else done this?  Thoughts? 

  Historically and etiquette speaking, the woman's name comes first. I have never seen the man's name first and I would find it very strange to see it.

  
  

  As for head of the household, we are equals in our house.....there is no "head".

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• ShellD13 member

  

  January 2014

  Joan -  We are partners but our beliefs tell us that the husband should be the head of the household.  That's not to say that it is permission for him to do whatever he wants and I have to defer to him on ALL matters just that it goes God, Husband, Wife, Children.  We should both be seeking God's will for our individual lives and marriage and out of that flows love and respect for your spouse to the point that neither would abuse or feel abused by the "power" of my future husband being the head of household.
  
  Not sure I'm explaining it well but it works for us.
  
  I had seen it listed Groom first then Bride in the case of a remarriage where kids are involved and it effectively sets up the children as the hosts....
  
  Daughter and Son would like to invite you to join them as their father
  
  Groom's Name
  
  is married to
  
  Bride's name
  
  which got me thinking about the placement of the groom's name first...
  

  

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• KatWAG member

  

  January 2014

  Our pastor wanted to review our invites before we sent it out. He wanted the traditional (brides name first) format.

  

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• doeydo member

  

  January 2014

  I have never seen the groom's name first and would think it extremely odd as it is usually 'ladies first'. 

  
  

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• Inkdancer member

  

  January 2014 edited January 2014

  Although the groom is the head of household, the bride's name should go first. This is because, in theory, you are leaving behind your father's household to go to your husband's household. Tradition dictates that because the marriage symbolizes your transition from one "family" to another, your name should go first.
  
  ETA: If your fiance's family is listed as hosting, your first middle and last names should be included. If your family is listed, your first and middle only can be listed but your fiance's full name should be included.
  

  

  

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• ShellD13 member

  

  January 2014 edited January 2014

  
  

  ETA: If your fiance's family is listed as hosting, your first middle and last names should be included. If your family is listed, your first and middle only can be listed but your fiance's full name should be included.
  

  I guess I need to do some more etiquette research...  what should be used if we are hosting our own wedding?  First middle last for both of us?  Answered my own question - full names for both if we are hosting our own.  Good to know :-)
  

  

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• Inkdancer member

  

  January 2014

  @ShellD13 Exactly! Your full names should both be on there so that everyone knows exactly who is getting married. Your guests probably done know you as Jane Melissa, they know you as Jane Doe.
  

  

  

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• CMGragain member

  

  January 2014 edited January 2014

  Together with their families
  Bride's Full Name
  and
  Groom's Full Name
  request the pleasure of your company
  as they are united in marriage
  Day, date
  time
  Venue
  Address
  City, State
  
  The bride's name always comes first, even if the groom's parents are the only hosts.  Your FI's name is used AFTER the wedding, as in Mr. and Mrs. John Smith.
  

  

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