burnt out on planning

CaliMel11 · January 2014

I'm so tired of planning this wedding. Seriously, I am excited to get married, and super stoked to have our family there.

But I'm so sick of meeting with vendors, looking at contracts, seeing how much money everything costs, and having to pick everything and then run it by the fiance to see if he likes it or not and if not figure out a compromise.
I will just be so so happy when everything is decided, paid for, done and we can just get married.

Lauderdale Pink · January 2014

Take a deep breath, go for a mani-pedi and zone out for a bit. If there are no "time crunches" at the moment, put it down for a week and don't think about it at all. When you are this overwhelmed you are likely to make mistakes or have buyers remorse. You have sensory overload and need some fresh air.

kittypolishnbags · January 2014

I got like this when I started planning. It was a stressful week and nothing was going in the pace I wanted with the exception of things I have control of (such as favors and invitations). But the venue and food part was driving me nuts. Eventually I stopped stressing over it. It's mostly me and wanting to get things nailed down ASAP was the problem. Just kick back and relax. I know what you mean though. I just want to be married but am having an intimate wedding to have friends and family with us. They would very much like to be there.

erinlin25 · January 2014

definitely take some "wedding free days." The planning should be fun--but yes can get overwhelming and taxing on all the decisions and money spent. So don't let it run your life. I would always at least one wedding free weekend a month where we would not do anything wedding related/ not even talk about the wedding. And anytime I crossed a big to do off my lift I would take a day or two off for a break. That really helped keep me (and my fiance) sane!

NOLABridesmaid · January 2014

You know what I've noticed. Remember that show Platinum Weddings? Those chick were always so happy and stress free. Then, you watch Bridezilla's or ladies planning on a budget and they're pulling out their hair and cussing everyone out.

I find it so interesting the difference between the two.

Heffalump · January 2014

Does your FI actually want to provide input on everything? I only ask because when I learned that mine didn't, it made everything easier. I wanted to include him, but it turned out he only cared about a few things. I took care if the rest, and we were both happier.

Like NOLA's comment, this may not apply in your case either, but I thought I'd throw it out there.

Wzz · January 2014

i want to know why you do the running around and then go to your fiance to ask his input. just curious. seems like a lot of double work.

AuntFlo · January 2014

FWP.

This might provide some perspective:

http://forums.theknot.com/discussion/1008667/so-sad-but-what-a-wonderful-young-man#latest

CaliMel11 · January 2014

Wzz said:

i want to know why you do the running around and then go to your fiance to ask his input. just curious. seems like a lot of double work.

It's not really. I don't actually run around, we talk about what we need/want and so I research it and then he looks at the options with me. So we decide on things together.

dharmabunny · January 2014

NOLABridesmaid said:
You know what I've noticed. Remember that show Platinum Weddings? Those chick were always so happy and stress free. Then, you watch Bridezilla's or ladies planning on a budget and they're pulling out their hair and cussing everyone out.
I find it so interesting the difference between the two.

<this might not apply to your case>

The main difference. The $$$$ to outsource as much as possible

GBCK · January 2014

outsourcing makes sense.

The Mr. and I sometimes fight liek mad during home remodels.

We'd probably do that less if we could just frickin HIRE SOMEONE instead of DIYing it. Nothing like trying to wash drywall dust out of your hair while arguing about redcoat for the greenboard to make someone's breathing extra annoying. how dare that bitch breathe loud when I'm pissy.

Wzz · January 2014

if you aren't doing all the running around, then why does this sound like you're overwhelmed with little help? why not either have him tag along, or have him do some of the work himself?

your words:

"But I'm so sick of meeting with vendors, looking at contracts, seeing how much money everything costs, and having to pick everything and then run it by the fiance to see if he likes it or not and if not figure out a compromise."

CaliMel11 · January 2014

Oh, I'm sure having the money to just outsource everything would be less stressful, haha. Unfortunately that's not really an option, but we have gotten vendors for most of the stuff.

antoto · January 2014

I have a month left to go and I am so sick of the planning. I just wish the day would be here already!!!

Time for a mani/pedi!

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