DH is on the phone with his brother, and they're discussing the brother's upcoming wedding.
So far, he has suggested:
-- a potluck is OK
-- if they go to the MDJ, they don't have to host anyone afterwards
-- what's 'traditional' for each side of the family to pay for
WAS HE NOT PAYING ATTENTION WHEN WE PLANNED OUR WEDDING?!?
I swear to the baby Jesus, he and I are going to have words when he hangs up that phone.
UPDATE:
He also saw nothing wrong with telling his brother, "Well, go to the MDJ on Valentine's Day and sign the paperwork, then have the ceremony FSIL wants later."
Y'all, my DH suggested a PPD. As a friend told me when I texted her, "...oh jesus...doesn't your husband know what you DO with your free time?'
Clearly he does not.
So he and I went several rounds about this, with him saying, 'But they've waited so long [10+ years] and she really wants a wedding but she wants it on Valentine's Day and she doesn't want to wait until next year.'
I said, as I'm sure none of you are surprised by, 'Actions have consequences, and the consequences of their actions means they're not going to get everything they want. If you're grown-up enough to get married, you're grown-up enough to deal with the consequences of your choices, which might mean not having the big poufy wedding you've always dreamed of because you've been engaged for 10 years and decided three weeks before V-Day you wanted to get married on V-Day, so something's going to have to give.'
Blessed Lord. It's gonna be a long three weeks.
I'm gonna go with 'not my circus, not my monkeys.'