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Save the dates, and formal invites....How different are they allowed to be?

Nov182015Nov182015 member
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edited January 2014 in Wedding Invitations & Paper
I am trying to include my guy on things. For the most part, he has given me full reigns.

We have agreed on a formal invitation, that has orchids on it. That is our favorite flower.

However, he has an idea for a save the date that i am not so sure on.
We both are intrigued by Day of the dead/sugar skulls and what not.
He thought it would be cute if we took pictures with our faces painted, (really elaborate) as sugar skulls for our Save the dates.

Would this be appropriate, without making our guests think that we are having a gothic/DOD themed wedding?
They obviously won't match the formal orchid invites. I'm really trying to let him have a say on some things.
This one of his only 3 requests is making me tilt my head though.
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Re: Save the dates, and formal invites....How different are they allowed to be?

  • AddieCakeAddieCake member
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    Our STDs were stick figures and our invitations were floral branches. They don't need to match at all.

     However, I'm not sure DOD will go over well for a lot of people. If I received that, I WOULD wonder if it was going to be a DOD themed wedding. Also, some of your guests might not even know what DOD is (I didn't before I met a Spanish teacher who became one of my best friends), and they might think it was a "scary" thing and inappropriate for a wedding. Just food for thought. 


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  • emmyg65emmyg65 member
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    Like Addie said, STDs and invitations don't have to match. But unless either of you has Mexican heritage, I would consider the face painting to be cultural appropriation and thus inappropriate.
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  • Nov182015Nov182015 member
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    We are both Hispanic (Cuban and Spaniard) but not Mexican decent. Thank you ladies.
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  • Love_CamLove_Cam member
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    Could you put two different pictures on the STD? Maybe have it double sided? You could do something clever like "til death do us part" and have that picture and on the other side a "normal" picture with the information for your guests? Or maybe you could have DOD party favors at your reception? Just trying to come up with different options for you since it is one of the things your FI wants.
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    Love_Cam said:
    Could you put two different pictures on the STD? Maybe have it double sided? You could do something clever like "til death do us part" and have that picture and on the other side a "normal" picture with the information for your guests? Or maybe you could have DOD party favors at your reception? Just trying to come up with different options for you since it is one of the things your FI wants.
    The double sided is an amazing idea! I never thought of that! Very clever, thank you!!!
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  • Love_CamLove_Cam member
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    :) Glad I could help!
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  • Jen4948Jen4948 member
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    I have to admit that I would feel creeped out by a death motif at a wedding, for the same reason many of us here advocate that any "recognition" given to the absence of deceased relatives be kept subtle and quiet.  Weddings are supposed to be celebrations of life together, not of the macabre.

    So regardless of how "cute" you think this is, I'd give some thought to the feelings of those persons you are considering sending this to.  Relatives and friends may not get the "cuteness" of it (which is subjective) and may even have more adverse reactions to it.
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