Wedding Invitations & Paper

Invitation Wording

So I'm confused about how to respectfully word our invitations.  Of course I plan to okay it with all parties before ordering, but I don't know where to start.

The groom's parents are paying for the vast majority of the wedding, so I know they will want to have all of the names listed, which is understandable.  My side of the family is my dad & stepmom and a couple who are kind of adoptive parents but not technically.  How should I approach this without offending anyone?

Re: Invitation Wording

  • CMGragainCMGragain member
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    edited January 2014
    It sounds like your FI's parents are hosting your wedding.  Your invitation is a note from the hosts to the guests, giving the important information of who, what, when and where.  It isn't a family tree.  I am assuming that your wedding is not in a church?

    Mr. and Mrs. John Groomsparents
    request the pleasure of your company
    at the marriage of
    Miss Bride's Full Name
    to their son
    Groom's First Middle
    Day, date
    time o'clock
    Venue
    Address
    City, State

    or

    Mr. and Mrs. James Brideparents
    Mr. and Mrs. John Groomsparents
    request the honour of your presence (church ceremony)
    at the marriage of
    Bride's Full Name
    and
    Groom's Full Name
    (etc.)
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  • Neither of those will work.  My parents (both sets) are also paying for the wedding.  And I will not have only one set of my parents on the invitations.  
  • I can only respond to the information that you give me.

    Mr. and Mrs. John Stepfather
    Mr. and Mrs. George Bridesfather
    Mr. and Mrs. John Groomsparents
    request the pleasure of your company
    at the marriage of
    Bride's Full Name
    and
    Groom's Full Name
    (etc.)

    Here is a non-traditional option:

    Together with their families
    Bride's Full Name
    and
    Groom's Full Name
    request the pleasure of your company
    as they are united in marriage
    (etc.)

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  • doeydodoeydo Southwestern Ontario member
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    edited January 2014

    Mr. and Mrs. John Stepfather
    Mr. and Mrs. George Bridesfather
    Mr. and Mrs. John Groomsparents
    request the pleasure of your company
    at the marriage of their children
    Bride's First and Middle Name
    and
    Groom's First and Middle Name
    Saturday, the seventeenth of May
    two thousand and fourteen
    at four o'clock in the afternoon

    Edited to fix

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  • CMGragainCMGragain member
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    edited January 2014
    @Doeydo, I don't like invitations that call the bride and groom "children".  Children do not get married.  In this case, the couples named include step parents.  Also, it's "half after four o'clock".  The word "o'clock" must be included, and "past" is not used for weddings according to Emily Post, the most liberal etiquette guide.
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  • doeydodoeydo Southwestern Ontario member
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    @Doeydo, I don't like invitations that call the bride and groom "children".  Children do not get married.  In this case, the couples named include step parents.  Also, it's "half after four o'clock".  The word "o'clock" must be included, and "past" is not used for weddings according to Emily Post, the most liberal etiquette guide.

    You're right about the time thing, however, I feel that even though I am an adult, I will always be my mom's daughter/child.
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  • You got that right!  I still wouldn't call my 33 year old daughter a "child" on an invitation. ;)
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