So far FI has been amazing with planning. He is very involved and definitely has his own opinion. While all of that is awesome, when it comes to etiquette, FI is very much lacking in his knowledge. He has had many suggestions that I've had to veto per etiquette rules (attire on invites, dollar dance, etc) but he's learning.
Well I was talking to FI today only to find out, he straight up B listed a couple we know. We have a lot of mutual friends with this couple but we just aren't good enough friends with them to put them on the list. I just sent out our STDates on Tuesday (yay!) and an aunt of mine posted on my facebook wall saying she got our STDates and that she was excited. I think this couple saw this post, along with all of our mutual friends getting their STDates, and was upset that they didn't get one. Apparently, the guy asked FI where their STDate was and FI did an awesome job bean dipping him and telling him that we are paying for the wedding ourselves and we had to make a lot of cuts on our friends list due to budget constraints. Then he followed all of that perfect bean-dipping up with telling him that if a lot of his family declines then they are invited.
What would ya'll do in this situation? I'm stumped and don't know what to do! FWIW I set FI straight and told him that what he did was B listing and it wasn't cool and to not do it anymore.
tl;dr FI verbally B-listed a couple and now I'm stumped on what to do.