As I've mentioned in other posts (but not recently) my mom is basically a hot mess. She has made a whole chain of terrible life decisions and bad financial moves. Currently she lives in her home state (5 hours away), trying to keep her small business afloat with only a few customers each month. She refuses to get a second job to pay her bills because "I'm done working for other people."
She is currently in a terrible relationship which I won't get into too much, but basically this guy has said and done some extremely hurtful things that are huge red flags for me. He's currently living with her rent-free, and his violent 9-year-old spends weekends with them. BF is in denial about the son's problems. Mom recently told me she thinks the son might eventually cause them to break up, which was seriously the only good thing I've heard her say about this relationship.
So my sister went to visit Mom this weekend. Sister has been texting me that she and Mom got in a huge fight (yes I'm aware this is Sis' point of view). Apparently Sis was acting grumpy, Mom asked what was wrong, Sis told her she feels Mom is making a mistake with this BF. Mom called Sis a bitch, threw a huge fit about how she "lived her life" for her kids and she's "done" doing that anymore, and told BF that Sis hates him. Sis left Mom's house and is now spending the weekend with a nearby friend.
I am boiling mad at my mom right now. She always puts whatever guy she is dating before me and Sis, ever since we were kids. How dare she put her shitty BF, who she admitted she's having problems with, over her own daughter. And then lay guilt on Sis about living for her kids. You are a mother, you're supposed to do that! And she only sees me or Sis a few times each year, you'd think she'd want to actually visit with her daughter instead of driving her out of the house.
I know I shouldn't really get in the middle of this, I just feel so angry that Sis told me all of this. Normally I'd be calling Mom to say hi at some point this weekend, but that might get really awkward. Do I call like normal and just act like I don't know anything? Do I call and say I heard Sis left the house? Do I just not call? I sort of want to call and give Mom a piece of my mind, but I know that's a terrible idea. Ugh.
"I'm not a rude bitch. I'm ten rude bitches in a large coat."