Who will walk me down the aisle?

mslorri · February 2014

I am 47 years old and am marrying my college sweetheart. This is a second marriage for me and a third for him. My dad passed away 8 years ago and it just occurred to me that I don't have anyone to walk me down the aisle! What are the alternatives to this? I have one uncle & he's 90, and definitely NOT my brother! Any suggestions?

Jen4948 · February 2014

You can walk down on your own. Alternatively, you could have a trusted friend walk with you, or even walk together with your FI. It doesn't have to be a relative or even a man.

You can even skip the walk down the aisle if you like and just start the ceremony with you both at the altar.

JoanE2012 · February 2014

mslorri said:

I am 47 years old and am marrying my college sweetheart. This is a second marriage for me and a third for him. My dad passed away 8 years ago and it just occurred to me that I don't have anyone to walk me down the aisle! What are the alternatives to this? I have one uncle & he's 90, and definitely NOT my brother! Any suggestions?

I would either walk down by myself or with my FI.

dolewhipper · February 2014

My sister, who is also my MOH, is walking me down the aisle.

CheleLyn · February 2014

This is both mine and J's third wedding. We were 8th grade crushes and actually tried to hook up after high school, but being young....

Anyway, my father has all but disowned me and while he is invited I doubt seriously he will be attending. My mother isn't invited at all. My brother has offered to push me down the aisle

Even if my dad were coming, I would still want my brother to do it. He's the one that, even though we were never especially close growing up, he was always there when I needed him. Also, he has known J almost as long as I have and is super supportive of me and J marrying.

yellowdaisies84 · February 2014

What about your Mom, Mslorri?

Artemischief · February 2014

Do you have a child? I've seen older children walk their moms before. As PPs said, you don't need anyone to walk you, but I understand if you prefer it(I would, even if only for the actual physical support!)

BrandNewJ · February 2014

yellowdaisies84 said:

What about your Mom, Mslorri?

I agree! I've noticed it's becoming common at the weddings I have attended to have the mother or both parents walk their daughter down the aisle. Are you close with your mom? If so, I'm sure she'd love to be a part of your special moment.

offthemarket915 · February 2014

As others have said, you can walk by yourself. I am.

Aside from being over 40, I am really not anyone's to 'give away', in any sense of the phrase.

emmyg65 · February 2014

My husband and I walked down the aisle together. There are lots of other options too.

HaileyDancingbear · February 2014

Honestly anyone can walk you down the aisle, it just has to be someone who means a lot to you. Or you can walk down by yourself, that's also perfectly acceptable. There are no set "rules" for this wedding detail.

speedyblazer11 · February 2014

Walk yourself or walk with FI. If my dad wasn't in the picture then I would only walk with FI. I think it is pretty sweet to walk into your new married life together.

cowgirl8238 · February 2014

I really like the idea of walking in with your FI...but honeslty you can choose to walk in with anyone you want to walk with.

Inkdancer · February 2014

I walked my mom down the aisle and there was not a single dry eye, because everyone knew how much we mean to each other.

Pick someone who is very special to you--a best friend or very close relative-- and walk with them.

mrs4everhart · February 2014

Are you comfortable walking by yourself and just feel like you need someone with you for tradition's sake?

At my first wedding my Dad walked me down the aisle and I let him and my mom "give me away." But honestly, I didn't like the "giving away" part, I'm not property! Yet I knew the traditional stuff meant something to them and it wasn't worth upsetting anyone over some silly symbolism. I can't imagine asking or wanting anyone to walk me this time around. I'll be 38 and on marriage number two, it would just feel all sorts of weird to me. I'm actually hoping my Dad isn't wanting to walk me again, I'm not out to hurt feelings but this is not what I want at all.

No one would frown on your walking yourself if you feel good about it. Otherwise, you can ask anyone you'd like to walk with you, it doesn't have to be an immediate family member.

offthemarket915 · February 2014

"I think it is pretty sweet to walk into your new married life together"

@speedyblazer11 I like how you put that

speedyblazer11 · February 2014

offthemarket915 Aww thanks. I'm pretty sure I stole that from somewhere else but I'll sure take the credit

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