So I'm originally from Oregon but have been living in MN for 3 years. Our wedding is slated for June 22. We were going to have it in OR, had the venue booked and everything, but now for a lot of reasons from family drama to expense to time, we are considering moving it to MN but don't know for sure at this point.
About a week ago I told my bff that I was hoping to have in the bridal party about this and she said it would be inconvenient but she'd make it work. Her brother is actually getting married in MN about a month prior so I was really afraid she wouldn't be able to hack it. She's finishing up at college and doesn't have much money.
She just texted me to say that she thought about it some more and doesn't think she can realistically make it. I'm not mad; I'm actually relieved that she's telling me this now and not later. But I REALLY want her to be there, so I'm thinking about offering to help with her ticket, possibly pay for all of it. Which isn't easy to do because we don't have a lot of extra money either, but more than she does at this point. Out of all my guests I knew she was the most likely to have a problem.
We know each other really, really well (known each other since she was born, were neighbors, and then roommates in college) so I don't think I have to worry too much about offending her but I am looking for a tactful way to offer help for her to get out here if that's what we decide to do. I know sometimes people consider it rude to offer money, but I feel kind of obligated since I'm possibly switching stuff up on pretty short notice and right now a ticket from pdx to mpls is starting at $402. Obviously I can't do this for everyone but she is one of two people that are really important to me to have with me at my wedding. Idk what would you do?