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Wedding Planning Blog (Updated 10/18/10)
Congrats to all the 2013 brides and my fellow 2012 brides. It goes so fast enjoy. Here are a couple of things to remember... #1. remember that it is YOUR day and your wedding. Not your mom's day, not your BM's day, not anyone else's day (except your FI lol) but he will even tell you that it's your day. Do what you want to do, plan the way you want to plan and have everything you want to have (within reason). You only get one shot at making your day special so do it the way you want to do it.My #2 advice would be not to blow the budget. Reality check.....IT IS ONLY ONE DAY!!!! You can make it fabulous and not break the bank. You still have to live afterwards and you cannot live in the reception hall. #3. Make sure you give your list of pics you want to the photographer. Although I love my pictures, there were several shots I didn't get that I wish I would have gotten.#4. Don't get discouraged because your FI isn't into wedding planning like you are. They are men, this is not their territory. This made me feel so sad at times and I took it to mean he really didn't want to get married. He wanted to get married, he just could have cared less about all the wedding stuff.And finally, and IMHO most importantly make sure you BOTH are ready. Air out all your dirty laundry before you get married. Be honest in counseling and accept him for who he is NOW not what you think you can change him into. Everybody is always ready for a wedding, but everybody ain't ready for the marriage That's old head talk right there.
Ro and B have pretty much covered everything but I will jump in and add the following:1. I STRONGLY second Ro's recommendation to get a videographer. It is our one and only wedding planning regret. The day went by super fast and no matter how many times we look at these 672 pro pics, we still really regret the decision to forego the expense of a videographer. 2. Hire a professional day-of coordinator if you can. Other than the photographer, it was the best-spent money of the whole process. I am a detail-oriented control freak and being able to express my expectations without worrying about a) whether things would get done, b) whether things would get done the way I wanted, and c) offending a volunteer friend/relative DOC with my perfectionist expectations was a huge relief. I was able to totally relax and enjoy the day's events from the time I arrived at the venue till the time we left without one worry. If anything went wrong, it was handled without my knowledge. I didn't even have to wonder how things were coming together upstairs while I was getting ready because my DOCs sent picture messages of the tablescapes, cake, etc. and checked in periodically with descriptions. It was a luxury I didn't have with my first wedding, so perhaps that is why I appreciated it so very much.3. Remember to smile and be your most fabulous self at all times because there is always a camera on you! I'm talking serious paparazzi! You will not get to approve people's personal pics before they get posted on FB (lol) so always be conscious of your facial expressions (even when you're eating). Yes, I know that sounds vain, but when else have you taken months and months to make sure everything about you is on point for one event?? So you.better.work!! Best wishes to my fellow 2012 brides and happy planning to all of the 2013 brides! Enjoy this time!And @ B, you betta say that thang, Soror!:"Everybody is always ready for a wedding, but everybody ain't ready for the marriage."
Hi ladies! It's been such a LOOONGG time since I've posted on here but I wanted to add in my comments too!Everyone has given great advice, especially about the photographer. I definitely didn't get all the pictures I wanted and didn't even realize I missed some of them until after the fact. I'd say if you can spend on a great photographer, do so. I found one at a savings but in hindsight as much as I liked him, I probably could have gotten someone else. I had a FABULOUS planner and I suggest all brides should at least have a day of coordnator. If you can afford to have one for a longer length of time I suggest that too. There's no way in the world I could have been the bride and the planner. The advice and friendship was tremendously valuable.Know that there will be people (even family) that will NOT be there for you 100% and they might even be shady too. But also know that those who want to really be there for you will be there for you NO MATTER WHAT. Weddings can bring out the very best and the very worst in people.THIS IS YOUR DAY.. and Fiance's too so make it about the two of you in the end. If you want to do exactly what you want don't let too many people in on the planning process and pay for it yourselves or have very little help, if possible.Don't go broke over the wedding. We budgeted pretty high for our wedding and in the end we ended up getting money BACK from our venue. Budget higher than your guest number and this could work for you too.Woosaw and know that there will be some stressful moments but this is the day the Lord has made so ENJOY every second.Good luck to everyone!