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Guest invite?

themuffinman16themuffinman16 member
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1) My step-mother is in a long-term relationship (divorced from father but we are still close), do I include her boyfriend on her invite and send it to her house (they live separately)? Or do I send them each separate invitations? I am an idiot when it comes to wedding planning.  2) Also, another guest has a long-term relationship  (I am friends with both) and she lives with her boyfriend half of the week (she works and has an apartment in another city). Do I send them a joint invitation, or separately? 3) And thirdly, my future nephew is 18 and is in a relationship.  He lives at home.  His girlfriend was not true to him, and they broke up.  They have since gotten back together, and his girlfriend is not allowed in his mother's house.  Do I invite her?  I don't want to cause drama at my wedding, and it seems like no matter what I do, I will be upsetting someone else. My FI thinks we should not invite his girlfriend to save money.  I know everyone over 18 should get an SO.  What would you do? 
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  • Maggie0829Maggie0829 member
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    themuffinman16 said:
    1) My step-mother is in a long-term relationship (divorced from father but we are still close), do I include her boyfriend on her invite and send it to her house (they live separately)? Or do I send them each separate invitations? I am an idiot when it comes to wedding planning.  2) Also, another guest has a long-term relationship  (I am friends with both) and she lives with her boyfriend half of the week (she works and has an apartment in another city). Do I send them a joint invitation, or separately? 3) And thirdly, my future nephew is 18 and is in a relationship.  He lives at home.  His girlfriend was not true to him, and they broke up.  They have since gotten back together, and his girlfriend is not allowed in his mother's house.  Do I invite her?  I don't want to cause drama at my wedding, and it seems like no matter what I do, I will be upsetting someone else. My FI thinks we should not invite his girlfriend to save money.  I know everyone over 18 should get an SO.  What would you do? 
    1)  You can include her boyfriend on her invite.  Address as such
    Ms. Step-Mom
    Mr. Step-Mom boyfriend
    Address

    2)  I would send the invitation to your friend and her boyfriend to their joint home

    3) Invite the nephews girlfriend.  She may not be welcomed into his Mother's house but your wedding is not your Mother's house and she should be invited.

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  • MyNameIsNotMyNameIsNot member
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    Maggie0829 said:
    themuffinman16 said:
    1) My step-mother is in a long-term relationship (divorced from father but we are still close), do I include her boyfriend on her invite and send it to her house (they live separately)? Or do I send them each separate invitations? I am an idiot when it comes to wedding planning.  2) Also, another guest has a long-term relationship  (I am friends with both) and she lives with her boyfriend half of the week (she works and has an apartment in another city). Do I send them a joint invitation, or separately? 3) And thirdly, my future nephew is 18 and is in a relationship.  He lives at home.  His girlfriend was not true to him, and they broke up.  They have since gotten back together, and his girlfriend is not allowed in his mother's house.  Do I invite her?  I don't want to cause drama at my wedding, and it seems like no matter what I do, I will be upsetting someone else. My FI thinks we should not invite his girlfriend to save money.  I know everyone over 18 should get an SO.  What would you do? 
    1)  You can include her boyfriend on her invite.  Address as such
    Ms. Step-Mom
    Mr. Step-Mom boyfriend
    Address

    2)  I would send the invitation to your friend and her boyfriend to their joint home

    3) Invite the nephews girlfriend.  She may not be welcomed into his Mother's house but your wedding is not your Mother's house and she should be invited.
    All of this.  

    Although you traditionally would send a separate invitation for the s/o if they didn't live with their partner, it's pretty common to include the non live-in s/o on the guest's invitation.  
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  • tammym1001tammym1001 member
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    Maggie0829 said:
    themuffinman16 said:
    1) My step-mother is in a long-term relationship (divorced from father but we are still close), do I include her boyfriend on her invite and send it to her house (they live separately)? Or do I send them each separate invitations? I am an idiot when it comes to wedding planning.  2) Also, another guest has a long-term relationship  (I am friends with both) and she lives with her boyfriend half of the week (she works and has an apartment in another city). Do I send them a joint invitation, or separately? 3) And thirdly, my future nephew is 18 and is in a relationship.  He lives at home.  His girlfriend was not true to him, and they broke up.  They have since gotten back together, and his girlfriend is not allowed in his mother's house.  Do I invite her?  I don't want to cause drama at my wedding, and it seems like no matter what I do, I will be upsetting someone else. My FI thinks we should not invite his girlfriend to save money.  I know everyone over 18 should get an SO.  What would you do? 
    1)  You can include her boyfriend on her invite.  Address as such
    Ms. Step-Mom
    Mr. Step-Mom boyfriend
    Address

    2)  I would send the invitation to your friend and her boyfriend to their joint home

    3) Invite the nephews girlfriend.  She may not be welcomed into his Mother's house but your wedding is not your Mother's house and she should be invited.
    I agree with what Maggie said except the last part. My niece will be 18 at my wedding. She has been dating the same guy for 2 years. He is not permitted in my sister's house at all. He won't be invited. I would rather break etiquette than cause problems and possibly a fight at my wedding to invite someone who honestly I hope won't be around much longer anyways. I think your family dynamics will play a big part in what you do on this one.
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  • Jen4948Jen4948 member
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    MyNameIsNot said:
    Maggie0829 said:
    themuffinman16 said:
    1) My step-mother is in a long-term relationship (divorced from father but we are still close), do I include her boyfriend on her invite and send it to her house (they live separately)? Or do I send them each separate invitations? I am an idiot when it comes to wedding planning.  2) Also, another guest has a long-term relationship  (I am friends with both) and she lives with her boyfriend half of the week (she works and has an apartment in another city). Do I send them a joint invitation, or separately? 3) And thirdly, my future nephew is 18 and is in a relationship.  He lives at home.  His girlfriend was not true to him, and they broke up.  They have since gotten back together, and his girlfriend is not allowed in his mother's house.  Do I invite her?  I don't want to cause drama at my wedding, and it seems like no matter what I do, I will be upsetting someone else. My FI thinks we should not invite his girlfriend to save money.  I know everyone over 18 should get an SO.  What would you do? 
    1)  You can include her boyfriend on her invite.  Address as such
    Ms. Step-Mom
    Mr. Step-Mom boyfriend
    Address

    2)  I would send the invitation to your friend and her boyfriend to their joint home

    3) Invite the nephews girlfriend.  She may not be welcomed into his Mother's house but your wedding is not your Mother's house and she should be invited.
    All of this.  

    Although you traditionally would send a separate invitation for the s/o if they didn't live with their partner, it's pretty common to include the non live-in s/o on the guest's invitation.  
    This.

    If you are using inner envelopes, you can send one invitation to the half of each couple you are actually related to or close to, list that person's name on the outer envelope, and then list both on the inner envelope.
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  • HisGirlFriday13HisGirlFriday13 member
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    themuffinman16 said:
    1) My step-mother is in a long-term relationship (divorced from father but we are still close), do I include her boyfriend on her invite and send it to her house (they live separately)? Or do I send them each separate invitations? I am an idiot when it comes to wedding planning.  2) Also, another guest has a long-term relationship  (I am friends with both) and she lives with her boyfriend half of the week (she works and has an apartment in another city). Do I send them a joint invitation, or separately? 3) And thirdly, my future nephew is 18 and is in a relationship.  He lives at home.  His girlfriend was not true to him, and they broke up.  They have since gotten back together, and his girlfriend is not allowed in his mother's house.  Do I invite her?  I don't want to cause drama at my wedding, and it seems like no matter what I do, I will be upsetting someone else. My FI thinks we should not invite his girlfriend to save money.  I know everyone over 18 should get an SO.  What would you do? 
    Sort of. Everyone over 18 should get their own invite. Anyone in a relationship should get to bring their SO. Truly single guests may be given a plus-one, but don't have to be. 
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    I'm gonna go with 'not my circus, not my monkeys.'
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