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Re: wedding

• Viczaesar member

  

  February 2014

  christin83 said:

  so here's the story....i was moh for my best friend and also my little sister.  my bf and i have always said we'd be each others. over the past few years her and i have become total opposites....dont even like the same music anymore!  i chose her anyway and my sis was ok with that cuz i knew if i didnt choose her there would be drama and i was already dealing with enough wedding drama!  well i told my sis (who is like my twin...we have EVERYTHING in common) to kind of keep me in the loop if my moh was planning any wierd stuff for my bridal shower or bach party.  and it has been like non stop from her wanting to make/buy hideous decorations to nothing even going together...kind of like a kid w/ add planning this!  vintage/classy decor w/ an m&m poster, pea s&p shakers and cake shaped candles????  another thing....my wedding isnt even till october and she is bombarding everyone with msgs about her ideas and when my sis actually gives feedback or says "hey lets shop together" (so she can get stuff she knows i'll like) my moh is kind of ignoring her.  she wasnt even going to include my mom in on all of this until i said something to her.  so i told my sis maybe she needs to be more direct with her or i could just talk to her.......what should i do????
  

  I don't have a clue what the bolded means, or half of this whole thing really.  What exactly is your complaint?  The ten words or less version. 
  

  
  
  
  

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• Maggie0829 member

  

  February 2014 edited February 2014

  Stay out of it. And no matter how hideous her decorations are you should be grateful for whatever your MOH plans for you because she doesn't have to do any of that crap if she really didn't want to. I think you should stop focusing on things you can't and shouldn't control and focus on the fact that your friend is trying really hard to plan some parties for you.

  
  

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• cookie0803 member

  

  February 2014 edited February 2014

  Your MOH is planning a shower for you, which is something she is not required to do. Not really seeing the problem here.

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• christin83 member

  

  February 2014

  well i will let my sister deal with it how she wants.  i'm not a bitch or a bridezilla, but i do have a problem with it when my moh doesnt involve my family or listen to their opinions, i think i have every right to be upset about that. 
  

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• MyNameIsNot member

  

  February 2014

  Holy run on sentence.  Please use proper punctuation if you want people to understand what you write.

  
  

  You are to stay out of shower planning.  Outside of supplying a guest list, you should have nothing to do with the shower or b-party.  You should not have anything to do with the planning, decor, etc.  Leave it alone. 

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• christin83 member

  

  February 2014

  um i'm not looking for gramma lessons!
  

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• MyNameIsNot member

  

  February 2014

  christin83 said:

  um i'm not looking for gramma lessons!
  

  I don't think they teach those.  Once your child has a child, it just happens.

  
  

  But then, I'm sure that if you wanted people to understand what you are saying, you would have the self respect to communicate like an adult.  

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• OliveOilsMom member

  

  February 2014

  Well if you don't like what your MOH is planning, then decline the shower from her.  But you really should be thankful for her even planning a shower of any kind.  If you weren't close with this girl anymore, you shouldn't have chosen her as MOH, but that ship has sailed.

  
  

  And as a PP mentioned, it is helpful to us when you use punctuation.  We can read your posts easier.  

  

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• MairePoppy mod

  

  February 2014 edited February 2014

  YoushouldntdoanythingifyoursisterandmotherwanttobeinvolvedinplanningyourshowertheyshouldcontactyourMOHandletherknowyoushouldbehappythatsheissoexcitedaboutdoingthisforyoumanybridesarenotsofortunate

                     

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• Viczaesar member

  

  February 2014

  I'm impressed that you all could figure out what she was trying to say, sort of.  I was seriously lost.
  

  
  
  
  

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• LondonLisa member

  

  February 2014

  You sound really ungrateful. So you don't like the decor? She doesn't HAVE to throw you a shower. She doesn't HAVE to spend her money to host it. She doesn't HAVE to include your sister. But she is. 

  
  

  So to your question: what should you do? Firstly, grow up! Secondly, say "Thank You" and butt out (this woman is being very nice to you) or decline the shower because your sensitivities cannot handle decor that isn't to your taste, even when the party is in your honour.

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• Maggie0829 member

  

  February 2014

  christin83 said:

  well i will let my sister deal with it how she wants.  i'm not a bitch or a bridezilla, but i do have a problem with it when my moh doesnt involve my family or listen to their opinions, i think i have every right to be upset about that. 
  

  No you don't have the right to be upset about that.  If your family wants to be involved in throwing you a party then they can throw you one themselves.  Your MOH does not have to involve anyone including your family in planning a party for you.  She also doesn't have to listen to their opinions if she doesn't want to.  

  
  

  To me it sounds like you just want some pretty parties and don't think your MOH can pull that off. If you don't want your MOH to be throwing you a party then decline her offer.  Just realize that if you accept other offers then you are basically telling your MOH that you think she sucks at planning parties and didn't want to attend such hideous events.

  
  

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