My FI's mother passed away when he was very young, and I would be grateful for suggestions of how we might honor her subtly on the day. FI would be sad and feel awkward if we made a big deal out of any mention, but I think it is sad and maybe a bit inappropriate to not give a nod to his mom in some small way.
I've ruled out donating money to a cancer charity as a favor. I have seen others mention absent loved ones on programs, but we are not having programs. FI is uncomfortable mentioning it during the ceremony, and he and his brother, who is BM, would think it too mawkish to mention in the BM speech (they are not an emotive family, bless them).
So I am a bit stuck for ideas...
Any thoughts?