Too Young to Be a Flower Girl

MollyandD · February 2014

My little sister suggested I use her little girl, who will be two when my wedding comes around, to be a flower girl. I told my sister I thought my niece, adorable and perfect though she is, is too young. My dad got married over the summer last year, and my two sisters and I were bridesmaids and baby niece was a flower girl. She was just over a year old, and my sister carried her down the aisle. My niece dumped the basket of flower petals over her head and yelled, "Yay!"

Once we were at the alter waiting, it became too much for baby niece, and she started to fuss. My big sister and I told little sister to just put her down. It seemed better than the yelling she was doing. Baby niece went back to the aisle and recollected the flower petals in her basket, and dumped them out again. All this happened as the bride walked down. They just stepped over my niece, who was now on her hands and knees picking up flower petals with her mouth.

My little sister never again suggested that her daughter should be a flower girl in my wedding.

Although this situation was completely precious, it probably wasn't what my dad and his wife had in mind. Has anyone else used a very young child in a wedding? How did it go? I know it all comes down to knowing the personality of the kids you are involving.

WildMagelet · February 2014

Children are unpredictable and therefore a risk in and of themselves. As long as you don't care if your niece dumps petals all over and then tries to eat them in the middle of the aisle then go right ahead.

Alternatively you could have her carry something like a stuffed animal instead.

Jen4948 · February 2014

Molly&Domenic said:

My little sister suggested I use her little girl, who will be two when my wedding comes around, to be a flower girl. I told my sister I thought my niece, adorable and perfect though she is, is too young. My dad got married over the summer last year, and my two sisters and I were bridesmaids and baby niece was a flower girl. She was just over a year old, and my sister carried her down the aisle. My niece dumped the basket of flower petals over her head and yelled, "Yay!" Once we were at the alter waiting, it became too much for baby niece, and she started to fuss. My big sister and I told little sister to just put her down. It seemed better than the yelling she was doing. Baby niece went back to the aisle and recollected the flower petals in her basket, and dumped them out again. All this happened as the bride walked down. They just stepped over my niece, who was now on her hands and knees picking up flower petals with her mouth. My little sister never again suggested that her daughter should be a flower girl in my wedding. Although this situation was completely precious, it probably wasn't what my dad and his wife had in mind. Has anyone else used a very young child in a wedding? How did it go? I know it all comes down to knowing the personality of the kids you are involving.

It can come down to more than that. I remember once reading a letter from a clergyman to an advice columnist, possibly Miss Manners, stating that because of behavior like that of your niece at your dad's wedding, his congregation instituted a ban on kids 5 or younger in wedding ceremonies.

Now, I can handle kids ages 3 and up in weddings, but when they're younger than 3, it seems to me that that's too young. They don't understand what they're being asked to do, and their behavior is unpredictable. A kid that young can be perfectly fine in one wedding, but then have a meltdown or otherwise behave undesirably at another. Also, it's possible to "include" and "honor" kids at weddings just by taking photos with them but not requiring more than that, so that's where I'd stop.

MollyandD · February 2014

flutterbride2b said:
Children are unpredictable and therefore a risk in and of themselves. As long as you don't care if your niece dumps petals all over and then tries to eat them in the middle of the aisle then go right ahead.

Alternatively you could have her carry something like a stuffed animal instead.

I am not having this sweet niece be in the wedding. An older niece and another girl I'm close to, both are 6, will be my flower girls.

AddieCake · February 2014

This is exactly why I think anyone under 3 (and when I say 3, I mean pushing 4) is too young. Yes, I know this is not a magic age for kids not to act up, but at least they have an idea what's going on.

cookie0803 · February 2014

We had our 2-year-old (at the time) niece in our wedding, and she was great. She talked about it for months before and still talks about it now. We didn't have a particular plan for when she would walk or who she would walk with. We let that be a game-time decision. She decided to walk with H and his parents, and sang very quietly to herself. Only the groomsmen and the first row could hear her.

That being said, she's 2 1/2 now and has fully entered the terrible 2's. If we were getting married now, we would probably not have had a flower girl, because these days she's always throwing or about to throw a tantrum.

Bubblegum5586 · February 2014

My flower girls were almost 2 and almost 3.... and they were too young! I realized that as the wedding got closer and closer but it was too late as I had already asked! I mean it worked out fine because both behaved and walked down the aisle with their mothers (both of which were bridesmaids). But I think it would have been easier the day of and prob for the mothers if they could just have fun being a BM instead of watching their child and making sure they behaved properly. Honestly I think both kids were a little overwhelmed - hence why they were so quite the whole time.

The only time I regretted it was during pictures.... my photographer decided to take the whole group out to the middle of nowhere to do wedding party shots... I didn't realize how far we were going until it was too late. And that's when the kids started acting up (but who can blame them!?) I wish we were closer to the hall at that point so a friend or spouse could have taken the kiddos instead of having them looking miserable/crying in the pictures (and again the mom's unable to just smile and have fun because they are trying to get their kid to behave.)

wandajune6 · February 2014

We're in for a treat!

My niece will be 2.5. She's the one who will throw the basket up in the air. Or maybe running to go sit down with her gramma.
His niece will be 5. She's very focused and serious. We see her dragging my niece down the aisle.

We're both pretty laid back and think the whole idea of the two of them together will be hysterical. We have no expectations of good behavior but think they'll be adorable. Plus, there will be enough kids at the wedding that people should have a sense of humor about it!

thelastdreamer · February 2014

Our flower girl will be 6 and our ring bearer will be 7. I know they're on the older end but I'm glad they'll understand what is going on and might even remember it some day.

MollyandD · February 2014

wandajune6 said:
We're in for a treat!

My niece will be 2.5. She's the one who will throw the basket up in the air. Or maybe running to go sit down with her gramma.
His niece will be 5. She's very focused and serious. We see her dragging my niece down the aisle.

We're both pretty laid back and think the whole idea of the two of them together will be hysterical. We have no expectations of good behavior but think they'll be adorable. Plus, there will be enough kids at the wedding that people should have a sense of humor about it!

We laughed at my dad's wedding when my niece was being cute and silly. The problem was that eventually, the ceremony was just a little too much for her and she started to get fussy. It was an afternoon wedding and it was her nap time.

sarahufl · February 2014

FI has 4 nieces. They will be 4, 5, 6 and 8 at the time of our wedding. I have 3, mine will be 2.5 and 11 months (they aren't twins- born a week apart to my SIL and sister!!). They are all adorable and little rockstars.

My nieces have cute little matching dresses and we intend to get FI's nieces matching dresses and have them be the flowergirls. My brother was really hurt when I mentioned that his 2.5 year old may be too young. So we decided to make a game time decision. We made them cute little bouquets (no flower petals in my church) and made one for the 2.5 year old. If anything, she can hold it in her lap during the ceremony.

MollyandD · February 2014

I think it's good to not make a full decision until it's go time. But remind your fiancé that if the little ones don't seem ready, and so they are not included, that it doesn't mean you both think they aren't as special or important. The other flower girl in my dad's wedding was around 3 and she was fine. My niece was just not up for that kind of task. Each kid is different and you may not know until the wedding day how it will go.

antoto · February 2014

Jen4948 said:

Molly&Domenic said:

My little sister suggested I use her little girl, who will be two when my wedding comes around, to be a flower girl. I told my sister I thought my niece, adorable and perfect though she is, is too young. My dad got married over the summer last year, and my two sisters and I were bridesmaids and baby niece was a flower girl. She was just over a year old, and my sister carried her down the aisle. My niece dumped the basket of flower petals over her head and yelled, "Yay!" Once we were at the alter waiting, it became too much for baby niece, and she started to fuss. My big sister and I told little sister to just put her down. It seemed better than the yelling she was doing. Baby niece went back to the aisle and recollected the flower petals in her basket, and dumped them out again. All this happened as the bride walked down. They just stepped over my niece, who was now on her hands and knees picking up flower petals with her mouth. My little sister never again suggested that her daughter should be a flower girl in my wedding. Although this situation was completely precious, it probably wasn't what my dad and his wife had in mind. Has anyone else used a very young child in a wedding? How did it go? I know it all comes down to knowing the personality of the kids you are involving.

It can come down to more than that. I remember once reading a letter from a clergyman to an advice columnist, possibly Miss Manners, stating that because of behavior like that of your niece at your dad's wedding, his congregation instituted a ban on kids 5 or younger in wedding ceremonies.

Now, I can handle kids ages 3 and up in weddings, but when they're younger than 3, it seems to me that that's too young. They don't understand what they're being asked to do, and their behavior is unpredictable. A kid that young can be perfectly fine in one wedding, but then have a meltdown or otherwise behave undesirably at another. Also, it's possible to "include" and "honor" kids at weddings just by taking photos with them but not requiring more than that, so that's where I'd stop.

I mean as long as the parents fully understand they will have to remove the kid if he/she has a meltdown... I mean other than that was is the worst they will do? Eat a rose petal? It's not like they are going to get drunk and throw chairs or something. many adults do much worse things than cry loudly.

Jen4948 · February 2014

antoto said:

Jen4948 said:

Molly&Domenic said:

My little sister suggested I use her little girl, who will be two when my wedding comes around, to be a flower girl. I told my sister I thought my niece, adorable and perfect though she is, is too young. My dad got married over the summer last year, and my two sisters and I were bridesmaids and baby niece was a flower girl. She was just over a year old, and my sister carried her down the aisle. My niece dumped the basket of flower petals over her head and yelled, "Yay!" Once we were at the alter waiting, it became too much for baby niece, and she started to fuss. My big sister and I told little sister to just put her down. It seemed better than the yelling she was doing. Baby niece went back to the aisle and recollected the flower petals in her basket, and dumped them out again. All this happened as the bride walked down. They just stepped over my niece, who was now on her hands and knees picking up flower petals with her mouth. My little sister never again suggested that her daughter should be a flower girl in my wedding. Although this situation was completely precious, it probably wasn't what my dad and his wife had in mind. Has anyone else used a very young child in a wedding? How did it go? I know it all comes down to knowing the personality of the kids you are involving.

It can come down to more than that. I remember once reading a letter from a clergyman to an advice columnist, possibly Miss Manners, stating that because of behavior like that of your niece at your dad's wedding, his congregation instituted a ban on kids 5 or younger in wedding ceremonies.

Now, I can handle kids ages 3 and up in weddings, but when they're younger than 3, it seems to me that that's too young. They don't understand what they're being asked to do, and their behavior is unpredictable. A kid that young can be perfectly fine in one wedding, but then have a meltdown or otherwise behave undesirably at another. Also, it's possible to "include" and "honor" kids at weddings just by taking photos with them but not requiring more than that, so that's where I'd stop.

I mean as long as the parents fully understand they will have to remove the kid if he/she has a meltdown... I mean other than that was is the worst they will do? Eat a rose petal? It's not like they are going to get drunk and throw chairs or something. many adults do much worse things than cry loudly.

Sorry, but adults presumably have the life experience and maturity to know that this kind of behavior is not acceptable at a wedding, and those who don't aren't invited or are escorted out. Kids under 3 don't. In addition to crying really loudly, they might also bite, hit people, put things in their mouths that don't belong there, tear them, break them, and do other kinds of damage that guess who's responsible for? The couple. So I'm not sympathetic to the "what's the worst they will do?" argument.

antoto · February 2014

Jen4948 said:

antoto said:

Jen4948 said:

Molly&Domenic said:

My little sister suggested I use her little girl, who will be two when my wedding comes around, to be a flower girl. I told my sister I thought my niece, adorable and perfect though she is, is too young. My dad got married over the summer last year, and my two sisters and I were bridesmaids and baby niece was a flower girl. She was just over a year old, and my sister carried her down the aisle. My niece dumped the basket of flower petals over her head and yelled, "Yay!" Once we were at the alter waiting, it became too much for baby niece, and she started to fuss. My big sister and I told little sister to just put her down. It seemed better than the yelling she was doing. Baby niece went back to the aisle and recollected the flower petals in her basket, and dumped them out again. All this happened as the bride walked down. They just stepped over my niece, who was now on her hands and knees picking up flower petals with her mouth. My little sister never again suggested that her daughter should be a flower girl in my wedding. Although this situation was completely precious, it probably wasn't what my dad and his wife had in mind. Has anyone else used a very young child in a wedding? How did it go? I know it all comes down to knowing the personality of the kids you are involving.

It can come down to more than that. I remember once reading a letter from a clergyman to an advice columnist, possibly Miss Manners, stating that because of behavior like that of your niece at your dad's wedding, his congregation instituted a ban on kids 5 or younger in wedding ceremonies.

Now, I can handle kids ages 3 and up in weddings, but when they're younger than 3, it seems to me that that's too young. They don't understand what they're being asked to do, and their behavior is unpredictable. A kid that young can be perfectly fine in one wedding, but then have a meltdown or otherwise behave undesirably at another. Also, it's possible to "include" and "honor" kids at weddings just by taking photos with them but not requiring more than that, so that's where I'd stop.

I mean as long as the parents fully understand they will have to remove the kid if he/she has a meltdown... I mean other than that was is the worst they will do? Eat a rose petal? It's not like they are going to get drunk and throw chairs or something. many adults do much worse things than cry loudly.

Sorry, but adults presumably have the life experience and maturity to know that this kind of behavior is not acceptable at a wedding, and those who don't aren't invited or are escorted out. Kids under 3 don't. In addition to crying really loudly, they might also bite, hit people, put things in their mouths that don't belong there, tear them, break them, and do other kinds of damage that guess who's responsible for? The couple. So I'm not sympathetic to the "what's the worst they will do?" argument.

Kids who are capable of biting and breaking things SHOULD know better also because their parents should have taught them that. No child I have ever known (I'm a teacher... I've known many) has ever just walked in somewhere and started biting people. I have no idea what kids you have met. If you happen to know that some friends of yours are terrible parents and have very poorly behaved children then certainly don't invite those children.

But if this is a huge fear of yours then of course you should have an adults only wedding and hope that non of your adult friends gets too drunk

Jen4948 · February 2014

antoto said:

Jen4948 said:

antoto said:

Jen4948 said:

Molly&Domenic said:

My little sister suggested I use her little girl, who will be two when my wedding comes around, to be a flower girl. I told my sister I thought my niece, adorable and perfect though she is, is too young. My dad got married over the summer last year, and my two sisters and I were bridesmaids and baby niece was a flower girl. She was just over a year old, and my sister carried her down the aisle. My niece dumped the basket of flower petals over her head and yelled, "Yay!" Once we were at the alter waiting, it became too much for baby niece, and she started to fuss. My big sister and I told little sister to just put her down. It seemed better than the yelling she was doing. Baby niece went back to the aisle and recollected the flower petals in her basket, and dumped them out again. All this happened as the bride walked down. They just stepped over my niece, who was now on her hands and knees picking up flower petals with her mouth. My little sister never again suggested that her daughter should be a flower girl in my wedding. Although this situation was completely precious, it probably wasn't what my dad and his wife had in mind. Has anyone else used a very young child in a wedding? How did it go? I know it all comes down to knowing the personality of the kids you are involving.

It can come down to more than that. I remember once reading a letter from a clergyman to an advice columnist, possibly Miss Manners, stating that because of behavior like that of your niece at your dad's wedding, his congregation instituted a ban on kids 5 or younger in wedding ceremonies.

Now, I can handle kids ages 3 and up in weddings, but when they're younger than 3, it seems to me that that's too young. They don't understand what they're being asked to do, and their behavior is unpredictable. A kid that young can be perfectly fine in one wedding, but then have a meltdown or otherwise behave undesirably at another. Also, it's possible to "include" and "honor" kids at weddings just by taking photos with them but not requiring more than that, so that's where I'd stop.

I mean as long as the parents fully understand they will have to remove the kid if he/she has a meltdown... I mean other than that was is the worst they will do? Eat a rose petal? It's not like they are going to get drunk and throw chairs or something. many adults do much worse things than cry loudly.

Sorry, but adults presumably have the life experience and maturity to know that this kind of behavior is not acceptable at a wedding, and those who don't aren't invited or are escorted out. Kids under 3 don't. In addition to crying really loudly, they might also bite, hit people, put things in their mouths that don't belong there, tear them, break them, and do other kinds of damage that guess who's responsible for? The couple. So I'm not sympathetic to the "what's the worst they will do?" argument.

Kids who are capable of biting and breaking things SHOULD know better also because their parents should have taught them that. No child I have ever known (I'm a teacher... I've known many) has ever just walked in somewhere and started biting people. I have no idea what kids you have met. If you happen to know that some friends of yours are terrible parents and have very poorly behaved children then certainly don't invite those children.

But if this is a huge fear of yours then of course you should have an adults only wedding and hope that non of your adult friends gets too drunk

I'm not talking about kids who are "old enough to know that." On the contrary, I am talking about kids who are not "old enough to know that." A kid over 3 can be told not to do it with expectations of being understood.

I don't need your sarcasm.

vmj23 · February 2014

my nephew was in a wedding at that age (probably around 2) but my sis in law arranged for someone (me in this case, since it wasn't a wedding I was going to) to be there to watch him. He walked down the aisle but as soon as he got antsy I grabbed and quietly took him out of the church and played til the ceremony was over. This worked out well, to have him still be in the wedding, but not have him interrupting the ceremony.

CMGragain · February 2014

Many churches do not allow very young children to participate in a wedding ceremony. Five is the perfect age for a flower girl. She is old enough to understand what is expected, and what is happening. I strongly object to "using" babies and toddlers in a wedding party for their cuteness value. It is hard on the children. Usually the one who wants them to do this is either a parent or the bride, herself. "Oooh, wouldn't it be just precious?" No.
I am a retired church organist. I have seen several weddings totally disrupted by flower girls and ring bearers who were too young to understand. It wasn't cute.

antoto · February 2014

Jen4948 said:

antoto said:

Jen4948 said:

antoto said:

Jen4948 said:

Molly&Domenic said:

My little sister suggested I use her little girl, who will be two when my wedding comes around, to be a flower girl. I told my sister I thought my niece, adorable and perfect though she is, is too young. My dad got married over the summer last year, and my two sisters and I were bridesmaids and baby niece was a flower girl. She was just over a year old, and my sister carried her down the aisle. My niece dumped the basket of flower petals over her head and yelled, "Yay!" Once we were at the alter waiting, it became too much for baby niece, and she started to fuss. My big sister and I told little sister to just put her down. It seemed better than the yelling she was doing. Baby niece went back to the aisle and recollected the flower petals in her basket, and dumped them out again. All this happened as the bride walked down. They just stepped over my niece, who was now on her hands and knees picking up flower petals with her mouth. My little sister never again suggested that her daughter should be a flower girl in my wedding. Although this situation was completely precious, it probably wasn't what my dad and his wife had in mind. Has anyone else used a very young child in a wedding? How did it go? I know it all comes down to knowing the personality of the kids you are involving.

It can come down to more than that. I remember once reading a letter from a clergyman to an advice columnist, possibly Miss Manners, stating that because of behavior like that of your niece at your dad's wedding, his congregation instituted a ban on kids 5 or younger in wedding ceremonies.

Now, I can handle kids ages 3 and up in weddings, but when they're younger than 3, it seems to me that that's too young. They don't understand what they're being asked to do, and their behavior is unpredictable. A kid that young can be perfectly fine in one wedding, but then have a meltdown or otherwise behave undesirably at another. Also, it's possible to "include" and "honor" kids at weddings just by taking photos with them but not requiring more than that, so that's where I'd stop.

I mean as long as the parents fully understand they will have to remove the kid if he/she has a meltdown... I mean other than that was is the worst they will do? Eat a rose petal? It's not like they are going to get drunk and throw chairs or something. many adults do much worse things than cry loudly.

Sorry, but adults presumably have the life experience and maturity to know that this kind of behavior is not acceptable at a wedding, and those who don't aren't invited or are escorted out. Kids under 3 don't. In addition to crying really loudly, they might also bite, hit people, put things in their mouths that don't belong there, tear them, break them, and do other kinds of damage that guess who's responsible for? The couple. So I'm not sympathetic to the "what's the worst they will do?" argument.

Kids who are capable of biting and breaking things SHOULD know better also because their parents should have taught them that. No child I have ever known (I'm a teacher... I've known many) has ever just walked in somewhere and started biting people. I have no idea what kids you have met. If you happen to know that some friends of yours are terrible parents and have very poorly behaved children then certainly don't invite those children.

But if this is a huge fear of yours then of course you should have an adults only wedding and hope that non of your adult friends gets too drunk

I'm not talking about kids who are "old enough to know that." On the contrary, I am talking about kids who are not "old enough to know that." A kid over 3 can be told not to do it with expectations of being understood.

I don't need your sarcasm.

A two year old does know not to bite people or grab something and rip it apart. If they have proper parenting.

I was being quite serious that if you don't want any shenanigans that you should hope none of the adults get too drunk. There was no sarcasm involved!

Jen4948 · February 2014

antoto said:

Jen4948 said:

antoto said:

Jen4948 said:

antoto said:

Jen4948 said:

Molly&Domenic said:

My little sister suggested I use her little girl, who will be two when my wedding comes around, to be a flower girl. I told my sister I thought my niece, adorable and perfect though she is, is too young. My dad got married over the summer last year, and my two sisters and I were bridesmaids and baby niece was a flower girl. She was just over a year old, and my sister carried her down the aisle. My niece dumped the basket of flower petals over her head and yelled, "Yay!" Once we were at the alter waiting, it became too much for baby niece, and she started to fuss. My big sister and I told little sister to just put her down. It seemed better than the yelling she was doing. Baby niece went back to the aisle and recollected the flower petals in her basket, and dumped them out again. All this happened as the bride walked down. They just stepped over my niece, who was now on her hands and knees picking up flower petals with her mouth. My little sister never again suggested that her daughter should be a flower girl in my wedding. Although this situation was completely precious, it probably wasn't what my dad and his wife had in mind. Has anyone else used a very young child in a wedding? How did it go? I know it all comes down to knowing the personality of the kids you are involving.

It can come down to more than that. I remember once reading a letter from a clergyman to an advice columnist, possibly Miss Manners, stating that because of behavior like that of your niece at your dad's wedding, his congregation instituted a ban on kids 5 or younger in wedding ceremonies.

Now, I can handle kids ages 3 and up in weddings, but when they're younger than 3, it seems to me that that's too young. They don't understand what they're being asked to do, and their behavior is unpredictable. A kid that young can be perfectly fine in one wedding, but then have a meltdown or otherwise behave undesirably at another. Also, it's possible to "include" and "honor" kids at weddings just by taking photos with them but not requiring more than that, so that's where I'd stop.

I mean as long as the parents fully understand they will have to remove the kid if he/she has a meltdown... I mean other than that was is the worst they will do? Eat a rose petal? It's not like they are going to get drunk and throw chairs or something. many adults do much worse things than cry loudly.

Sorry, but adults presumably have the life experience and maturity to know that this kind of behavior is not acceptable at a wedding, and those who don't aren't invited or are escorted out. Kids under 3 don't. In addition to crying really loudly, they might also bite, hit people, put things in their mouths that don't belong there, tear them, break them, and do other kinds of damage that guess who's responsible for? The couple. So I'm not sympathetic to the "what's the worst they will do?" argument.

Kids who are capable of biting and breaking things SHOULD know better also because their parents should have taught them that. No child I have ever known (I'm a teacher... I've known many) has ever just walked in somewhere and started biting people. I have no idea what kids you have met. If you happen to know that some friends of yours are terrible parents and have very poorly behaved children then certainly don't invite those children.

But if this is a huge fear of yours then of course you should have an adults only wedding and hope that non of your adult friends gets too drunk

I'm not talking about kids who are "old enough to know that." On the contrary, I am talking about kids who are not "old enough to know that." A kid over 3 can be told not to do it with expectations of being understood.

I don't need your sarcasm.

A two year old does know not to bite people or grab something and rip it apart. If they have proper parenting.

I was being quite serious that if you don't want any shenanigans that you should hope none of the adults get too drunk. There was no sarcasm involved!

Actually, from what I've seen, two year olds do not know "not to bite people or grab something and rip it apart" UNLESS an adult stops them. And that's what I'm talking about: Someone who behaves like that unless they are stopped in time is too young. They can do too much damage before they're stopped.

And regardless of what you meant, whether or not the adults in charge of such children drink is not the only factor that might keep them from acting in time. Sometimes other things distract them, and sometimes they just don't give a damn. Either way, by the time they or even the best parents act, the damage is often already done.

So, I stand by my opinion: I think two year olds are too young to play any roles in wedding ceremonies and should just be in photos.

HisGirlFriday13 · February 2014

My 2.5-year-old nephew was one of our RBs (DH's 8-year-old nephew was the other), and he had zero, zip, zilch, nada NOT ONE problems either leading up to or during the wedding (which was an hour-long Catholic Mass.)

It depends on the kid. Nephew is used to attending Mass, is freakishly smart, and was very keen to do a good job for Auntie and Uncle. He kept saying, '(Name) do good job. Give (Auntie) ring to (Uncle). Do good job.'

He did decide, prior to walling down the aisle, that he would rather wall with my MOH than with the other RB, and that was fine. Also, he told his mom, my SIL/BM, 'want to sit with (grandma and grandpa), not you,' So he sat in the pew inbetween my parents and was totally content.

Oh, and he capped his little hands every time the priest said 'amen' because for some reason, in his mind, 'amen' is the signal to clap and say? "Yay God!'

antoto · February 2014

HisGirlFriday13 said:

My 2.5-year-old nephew was one of our RBs (DH's 8-year-old nephew was the other), and he had zero, zip, zilch, nada NOT ONE problems either leading up to or during the wedding (which was an hour-long Catholic Mass.) It depends on the kid. Nephew is used to attending Mass, is freakishly smart, and was very keen to do a good job for Auntie and Uncle. He kept saying, '(Name) do good job. Give (Auntie) ring to (Uncle). Do good job.' He did decide, prior to walling down the aisle, that he would rather wall with my MOH than with the other RB, and that was fine. Also, he told his mom, my SIL/BM, 'want to sit with (grandma and grandpa), not you,' So he sat in the pew inbetween my parents and was totally content. Oh, and he capped his little hands every time the priest said 'amen' because for some reason, in his mind, 'amen' is the signal to clap and say? "Yay God!'

Eeep! My ovaries!

Too cute.

Tiffany101015 · February 2014

I have 2 FG and 2 RB for my wedding because of this. The older ones (6 and 8) will be the ones with the flowers and pillow. The younger ones are both just under 2 and will be in charge of walking with a sign that says "here comes the bride" or something of that sort.

Jen4948 · February 2014

Tiffany101015 said:

I have 2 FG and 2 RB for my wedding because of this. The older ones (6 and 8) will be the ones with the flowers and pillow. The younger ones are both just under 2 and will be in charge of walking with a sign that says "here comes the bride" or something of that sort.

I think it's unrealistic for infants under 2 to walk with a sign.

I'd just have the under-2s in photos and let it go at that.

antoto · February 2014

Tiffany101015 said:

I have 2 FG and 2 RB for my wedding because of this. The older ones (6 and 8) will be the ones with the flowers and pillow. The younger ones are both just under 2 and will be in charge of walking with a sign that says "here comes the bride" or something of that sort.

I think it's unrealistic for infants under 2 to walk with a sign.

I'd just have the under-2s in photos and let it go at that.

Box I believe as soon as a child speaks/walks they are no longer called infants - they are toddlers. But I agree that a sign may be a little intense for them depending on the sign/length of aisle. Maybe have a run through before you set your heart on anything. Give them a sign and have them walk down the hallway. Note that this is not a foolproof test. They may choose to drop the sign and go running down the aisle crying when they have 100 people staring at them. Go for it - just don't have your heart totally set. Maybe a bridesmaid or a friend could carry them down the aisle or hold their hand down the aisle instead?

StefA8 · February 2014

My fiancé and I are having 2 ring bearers and 2 flower girls. My niece will be 6 and his niece will be 2 1/2. The boys will be 5 1/2 and almost 4. The girls are sooooo excited to wear their dresses. In fact both girls were so upset that they weren't taking their dresses home with them they day they were measured to order the dresses. I realize kiddos will be kiddos meltdowns happen and they sometimes steal the show - I'm completely fine with it as is my fiancé. We both love those kiddos dearly and laughter at a joyful event is what we want. My only concern is me passing out creating a huge scene - lol not the kiddos! I say embrace the innocence of a child - jmo!

Jen4948 · February 2014

antoto said:

Tiffany101015 said:

I have 2 FG and 2 RB for my wedding because of this. The older ones (6 and 8) will be the ones with the flowers and pillow. The younger ones are both just under 2 and will be in charge of walking with a sign that says "here comes the bride" or something of that sort.

I think it's unrealistic for infants under 2 to walk with a sign.

I'd just have the under-2s in photos and let it go at that.

Box I believe as soon as a child speaks/walks they are no longer called infants - they are toddlers. But I agree that a sign may be a little intense for them depending on the sign/length of aisle. Maybe have a run through before you set your heart on anything. Give them a sign and have them walk down the hallway. Note that this is not a foolproof test. They may choose to drop the sign and go running down the aisle crying when they have 100 people staring at them. Go for it - just don't have your heart totally set. Maybe a bridesmaid or a friend could carry them down the aisle or hold their hand down the aisle instead?

If they can't get up and down the aisle on their own without being carried or having their hands held, they are too young to participate in this fashion. Just take pictures with them.

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