Two Receptions...Etiquette help?!

Re: Two Receptions...Etiquette help?!

• Maggie0829 member

  

  February 2014

  We're having two receptions: a traditional cake reception (receiving line, etc.) immediately following the ceremony, then a "celebration" at an off site location for close friends and family where drinks, appetizers, and dancing will take place. The second location doesn't allow for everyone to be invited, plus there are some that we simply don't want to include. How do we differentiate the two receptions on the invites, and how do we (for the most part) avoid having those who are invited sharing the information with those who are not? It's the only way that we've found that will appease those we "have to" invite to the ceremony/cake reception, but still allow us to enjoy the presence of those closest to us. 

  What you are planning is rude which is why you can't think of a nice way to word it.

  
  

  Invite everyone to everything.  If there are certain people you don't want to invite then don't.  Simple as that.  But to tier the day like you are planning is rude to your guests.  What happens if one of your guests who got invited to the whole shebang starts talking about how they can't wait for dinner and dancing to one of the guests that got poo-pooed on and only got an invite to the cake reception?  It is going to make people feel like shit on both sides of the coin.

  
  

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• photokitty mod

  

  February 2014

  The only way this is acceptable is if the cake reception is for people you do not send invite. Some churches will announce upcoming wedding and the entire congregation is allowed to come. You could politely give these "uninvited guests" cake and not invite them to the dinner. But again there should be no written invite of any type issued by the B&G, or their parents/ hosts, to these well wishers.

  
  

  Why on earth would you send an invitation to someone you "simply don't want to include??" If you send someone an invite you need to invite them to both the cake and the celebration. Save yourself the time, trouble and money and only invite people you actually want to be there.

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• MayDay513 member

  

  February 2014

  MazieJ said:

  We're having two receptions: a traditional cake reception (receiving line, etc.) immediately following the ceremony, then a "celebration" at an off site location for close friends and family where drinks, appetizers, and dancing will take place. The second location doesn't allow for everyone to be invited, plus there are some that we simply don't want to include. How do we differentiate the two receptions on the invites, and how do we (for the most part) avoid having those who are invited sharing the information with those who are not? It's the only way that we've found that will appease those we "have to" invite to the ceremony/cake reception, but still allow us to enjoy the presence of those closest to us. 

  This is rude, especially the bolded. Why would you invite people to your wedding you don't want there? If your reception hall is too small, then either make your guest list smaller or find a new venue.
  

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• CMGragain member

  

  February 2014

  This is called a tiered reception, and it is one of the rudest things that you can do.
  

  

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