Do i include a list of places I'm registered at in the actual invitation?

Re: Do i include a list of places I'm registered at in the actual invitation?

• MobKaz member

  

  February 2014

  You NEVER include any registry information with a wedding invitation.  The only time you include registry information is with a wedding shower invitation.  The purpose of a wedding shower is to shower the bride with gifts, hence the appropriateness of the registry insertion.

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• Wedqueen12 member

  

  February 2014

  Then why do guests bring gifts to the married couple's wedding reception?

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• MobKaz member

  

  February 2014

  There are many people that prefer giving a boxed gift over cash.  

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• doeydo member

  

  February 2014

  Registry information is never mentioned by you and certainly not included in the invitation.  If someone wants to know where you are registered, they can Google your name, ask you, or ask another guest if they know.  Also, not everyone is invited to a the bridal shower and some brides don't have showers at all.  Also, I would always give something for a couple's wedding even if I did give something to her/them at a shower.  However, the bride and groom should never expect anything, or course.  

  
  

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• manateehugger member

  

  February 2014

  Wedqueen12 said:

  Then why do guests bring gifts to the married couple's wedding reception?

  Because they'd like to. Receptions are not technically gift-giving events (unlike a shower), so no gift is required. By including your registry info, you are shoving the fact that you want gifts in your guests' faces. 

  

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• MyNameIsNot member

  

  February 2014

  You should never bring up your registry to anyone unless asked.  Just as you wouldn't walk up to a friend and tell her where you registered, you wouldn't send her anything about it in the mail.  

  
  

  Shower invitations are sent by someone other than you, and they are sent for a party that is specifically for gifts.  It's ok for the shower host to mention the registry.  

  
  

  It's actually proper to ship physical wedding gifts to the couple rather than to bring them to the wedding, but not everyone follows that.  

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• CMGragain member

  

  February 2014

  It is very rude to mention ANYTHING about gifts or registries in a wedding invitation.
  

  

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• Jen4948 member

  

  February 2014

  Wedqueen12 said:

  I'm slightly confused. If someone has a bridal shower then why include a bridal registry in the formal invitation? What's the point of guests bringing gifts to the reception? I'm not sure about any of this. Can someone help please?

  You should NEVER include registry information or even mention gifts in any way, shape, or form in a wedding invitation.  That includes any "no gifts" or "in lieu of gifts" requests.
  
  And traditional etiquette agrees with you that there's no point in guests bringing gifts to the reception (they should be sent to the couple before or after the wedding), but people do it anyway, often because they prefer to save the mailing/shipping costs, it's a "tradition" in their families, regions, or cultures, and/or they want to see the couple open them in person (which is not appropriate at a Western wedding reception).  If someone brings a gift to your wedding, just accept it graciously, say thank-you (and send them a gracious thank-you note later) and set it aside somewhere to take with you and open later.
  

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