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Etiquette Fail

bmydesignerbmydesigner member
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So I usually just lurk on these boards, but I had to share this horrible etiquette faux pas story of my step-sister.

So, she's getting married, and the other day she decided to put her STD on facebook. Meanwhile, her dad (who doesn't have facebook) doesn't even know she's engaged yet. I'm just not really sure it's a good idea to put a STD on facebook because then wouldn't everyone who sees it think they're invited? Yuck.
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  • bmydesignerbmydesigner member
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    I'm probably not going to be invited to the wedding because we're not really that close (which is fine), but I'll be sure to keep you all posted on everything I find out :)
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  • grumbledoregrumbledore member
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    bmydesigner said:
    I'm probably not going to be invited to the wedding because we're not really that close (which is fine), but I'll be sure to keep you all posted on everything I find out :)

    Please do, things like this really make the work day more interesting.

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  • antotoantoto member
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    Especially for younger brides it's so tempting to post stuff on facebook (I admit it, I posted the "Going to buy my dress, so excited! status)

    Someone needs to tell this girl to cut it out!  I hope someone mentions something to her.  Maybe someone can buy her an etiquette book for an engagement gift...
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  • vt&dtvt&dt member
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    I have a Facebook friend who almost did the same thing - she posted her date, location, and said: "Save-The-Dates are in the mail - so if you're close to us, be on the lookout!"

    Then, just a couple days after that, asked a general question about pricing to rent a space where "she'd like to have her bridal shower".  Sounds like she's hosting a party in her honor where the main activity is guests giving her presents!  Ugh.
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  • bmydesignerbmydesigner member
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    I get being excited about your wedding, but there's so many people on my Facebook that I just can't fit in at the wedding and I wouldn't want them to get the wrong idea. It makes more sense to share that excitement with oh I don't know, your FI.
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  • happywigglehappywiggle member
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    scribe95 said:
    Just an FYI I had a cousin on FB who posted about needing addresses and I made some smart-ass comment about her inviting all her FB friends. She told me she had outed those not invited from the posting. It can be done. I felt like an ass.
    I thought about doing that when the time comes, but my thoughts are "what if I accidentally add someone to the list/not block everyone who shouldn't see this"... some things should just be kept off FB.
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  • Maggie0829Maggie0829 member
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    amrhodes23 said:
    scribe95 said:
    Just an FYI I had a cousin on FB who posted about needing addresses and I made some smart-ass comment about her inviting all her FB friends. She told me she had outed those not invited from the posting. It can be done. I felt like an ass.
    I thought about doing that when the time comes, but my thoughts are "what if I accidentally add someone to the list/not block everyone who shouldn't see this"... some things should just be kept off FB.
    I used FB private messaging to ask my friends who were invited to the wedding for their addresses. I felt that was a whole hell of a lot safer then making a post and excluding people for fear of not doing the blocking right.

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  • Jen4948Jen4948 member
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    bmydesigner said:
    So I usually just lurk on these boards, but I had to share this horrible etiquette faux pas story of my step-sister.

    So, she's getting married, and the other day she decided to put her STD on facebook. Meanwhile, her dad (who doesn't have facebook) doesn't even know she's engaged yet. I'm just not really sure it's a good idea to put a STD on facebook because then wouldn't everyone who sees it think they're invited? Yuck.
    Yikes. 

    My family pretty much lives on Facebook too, and I'm nervous about them posting anything about my engagement or wedding (not yet engaged, but soon).  I think that once I am engaged I will have to adjust my settings so that nobody can post on my page or tag me in photos-but my folks are going to go crazy with it anyway.
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  • cowgirl8238cowgirl8238 member
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    I had that Facebook friend who insisted on counting down everything....

    X Days until the Bridal Shower

    X Days until the RSVP's are due (with passive aggressive threats against anyone who failed to RSVP in time.  Also everyone talked shit about it behind her back "Rude and Tacky" were used a bit there)

    X Days until the wedding

    it makes you want to gag!  I think I made one post about our officiant because he was just too awesome not to share, and even then it was in teh family group...meaning everyone who saw it was invited!

    When people ask me about our wedding I always tell them its a surprise!  Only my mom and MIL have seen my dress, and event though she ask's my MIL and mom only have the general idea of what I'm doing.  I want them to be surprised by the look, not know every single detail

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  • chibiyuichibiyui member
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    I've posted about three wedding things on facebook, Picture of ring day after getting engaged, that I got my dress, and that I had a year to go till wedding status. All of these where posted before I told my Bio dad that I was engaged. In my defense, I don't talk to Bio-dad, and FI and I were going back and forth on whether or not we were actually going to invite him for a long, long time.

    If OP's friend is on speaking terms with her dad, posting shit to FB about teh wedding without him knowing she's engaged, then thats pretty shitty.
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  • bmydesignerbmydesigner member
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    chibiyui said:
    I've posted about three wedding things on facebook, Picture of ring day after getting engaged, that I got my dress, and that I had a year to go till wedding status. All of these where posted before I told my Bio dad that I was engaged. In my defense, I don't talk to Bio-dad, and FI and I were going back and forth on whether or not we were actually going to invite him for a long, long time.

    If OP's friend is on speaking terms with her dad, posting shit to FB about teh wedding without him knowing she's engaged, then thats pretty shitty.
    Oh that's perfectly understandable. She's on speaking terms with her dad, they have no problems in their relationship at all. Her defense is, "well I haven't seen him in a couple weeks."
    But it's okay to post on FB? Makes no sense.
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    Inkdancer said: BRB Gotta go get my white cheddar popcorn.

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    That's funny, I'm eating mine now and as I read the OP I thought of my boss who told me that she sent STDs to     everyone, and now she has to figure out who she actually wants to invite.
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  • mrs4everhartmrs4everhart member
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    It might be awkward, but no, just because I see something like a Save the Date, invitation or something along those lines on FB, I don't automatically assume mine will be in the mail any second. If I received a STD in the mail, then I would start making assumptions about a formal invitation following. I guess I just don't put much stock in what I see or real on social media. 
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