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Inviting the Officiant

MollyandDMollyandD member
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I did not know until I looked here that you are supposed to invite the officiant to the reception. When an older sibling was married, our pastor was invited, but we were very involved with the church and he was considered a friend as well.

I am no longer actively involved in a church. When I get married, it will be in a beautiful chapel. The chapel is providing the officiant, and I will not meet him until the day of my ceremony. All directions for the ceremony go through the coordinator.

What do I do in this situation? Should I drop off an invitation with the coordinator to give to the officiant? Do I invite his spouse, if he is married? I will talk to the coordinator to learn what is typically done and what she recommends, but I am asking here too. I want to be polite to the person who is helping me be married, even though I do not know him.
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Re: Inviting the Officiant

  • photokittyphotokitty mod
    Moderator Knottie Warrior 5000 Comments 500 Love Its
    You are not obligated to invite the officiant, especially if he is just a vendor. Most people invite them as a courtesy, but according to my coworker who is an officiant, they rarely attend the ceremony if they don't know the couple. This officiant sounds like anyone else you would hire for only the ceremony, aka musicians - so you don't have to invite him, he is being paid to be there and has no other relationship with you.

    If you invite choose the officiant, you should invite their spouse.
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  • doeydodoeydo member
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    If you do not have a relationship with the officiant, ie. a pastor that you see at least every Sunday, then you are not obligated to invite them.
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  • InkdancerInkdancer member
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    As you don't know this person, I would skip the invite.

    I am inviting my officiant because he is my pastor who I see every Sunday. He is my friend and I would be sad for him to miss the reception.

    Without that relationship, I think skipping the invite is okay.
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  • MollyandDMollyandD member
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    Oh, ok. I thought it was something I was expected to do. I have no relationship with this person and will likely only see him the day of the wedding.
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  • Jen4948Jen4948 member
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    It's often done, but not required and officiants often don't attend receptions.
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  • JoanE2012JoanE2012 member
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    We had no prior relationship with our officiant.  He was a paid vendor and we didn't invite him to the reception.  
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