I let my FMIL be in charge of finding a minister for our wedding because their church is more flexible on ceremony location. He's Church of Christ, and I'm Catholic.
First we asked FIs HS minister to officiate our wedding, and after 3 months of waiting for a decision about travel schedule and costs, told us no. So then they thought it would be a precious idea to have the man who baptised FI so many years ago marry us. Only problem, this man now lives in Ireland. Yet they still asked! (crazy people..) Well, the man declined (thankfully daily quickly). So I encouraged them to please ask someone in the church who does not have to make travel arrangements and they said they would ask the minister of the church. After 2 weeks of emailing, apparently the minister has a previous engagement and cannot do it. I'm super frustrated being told no over and over with 5 months to go...
So I'm taking over and FIs family is not in charge of this anymore lol. My question for everyone is:
Has anyone had a friend or family member become licensed to officiate for the day? What kind of preparation did it require, and are there negatives to doing this if we wanted a religious type ceremony? FMIL is going on about them not being an "ordained minister" of the state, but I don't know anything except that I'm Catholic and a priest will not marry us outside of the Church. Thanks for any information about this.