I'm having a sad day

mrsbanany · February 2014

So yesterday was Valentine's Day and the first day my FI and I have really seen each other in 2 weeks. We saw each other in passing, no more than 1 hour at a time and that was only on about 2 of the 14 days. Yesterday we went to a wine tasting and it was super fun and we bought wine for our parents and ourselves but the bottle for his parents broke so we gave them ours. Which means we got none for ourselves and this winery is a 2 hour drive away and given my FI's ridiculous schedule the chances that we will have the opportunity to drive 2 hours to buy a bottle of wine are very slim. Our 5 year anniversary is on Monday but he has class so we were going to celebrate it tonight. However, mother nature thought tonight would be a great night for a blizzard. This means that since we don't live together, he can't make it to my house and our date night has been cancelled. This also means we won't see each other until next weekend at the very earliest. I feel like these are little things and I really shouldn't be sad but I am. Who cries over spilled wine? I just feel like it is a combination of all these small, annoying things happening all at once. Honestly, I feel like I should get over it because with this only being his first year of med school I know it is only going to get worse before it gets better. I also know things could be worse right now and I always feel bad complaining because I am sure one of you reading this probably does have it worse. Sorry for the little pity post. Can we have a group hug?

lyndausvi · February 2014

hugs

JCbride2015 · February 2014

Oh, girl, I have been exactly where you are and I SO know that exact feeling. Go ahead and cry it out. Fi and I were long-distance during my first year of law school. If a weekend visit got canceled at the last minute for some reason, I was inconsolable until the next visit. I cried over stupid shit because really, I was just sad we couldn't see each other as much. You aren't crying over the spilled wine, you're crying because you were supposed to have quality time with Fi and you can't see him. It's alright, we've all been there.

((((( group hug )))))

hikebikebemerry · February 2014

Big hugs!!

Not being able to see your partner is difficult; and it's OK to be upset when stuff gets cancelled! FI and I were long distance when we first started dating, and if a weekend together had to be cancelled- I was miserable.

Try doing a Skype date instead? (FI and I never did this, but my sister and I used to both get on Skype and watch the same movie.)

JCbride2015 · February 2014

hikebikebemerry said:

Big hugs!!

Not being able to see your partner is difficult; and it's OK to be upset when stuff gets cancelled! FI and I were long distance when we first started dating, and if a weekend together had to be cancelled- I was miserable.

Try doing a Skype date instead? (FI and I never did this, but my sister and I used to both get on Skype and watch the same movie.)

Oh yeah, I second the Skype date idea. Spring semester we were so miserable. We started doing a Skype date almost every night, and sometimes we would put on Skype and both watch the same show on Netflix. It really helped me feel relaxed.

pinkcow13 · February 2014

Aww I'm sorry. Sending you lots of hugs!

firebabe6519 · February 2014

Hugs! *passes the chocolate and wine*

It definitely sucks not being able to see your FI very often. I too second the Skype dates! That is how FI and I made it through college. We still have them once in a while since our work schedules don't allow us to get together very often.

Jells2dot0 · February 2014

I am getting ready to Skype my DH now. I have been living apart from him in a hotel since November. So, I know what you are going through and sending big hugs your way!!!

mrsbanany · February 2014

Thanks everyone! We Skype a lot, it is how we made it through undergrad and med school so far but these last two weeks have been seriously rough, I mean maybe 5 texts a day & a 10 min phone call if we are lucky! Watching a movie together on Skype is a great idea though! He usually never has time to watch a whole movie but he had tonight off originally so this might be the perfect time!

SmileDamnit · February 2014

I hate that feeling of disappointment when you are so excited for something. Lots & lots of {{hugs}}. And hope the Skype date is perfect

pumpkinsandturkeys · February 2014

Group hug!

I cry over the stupidest crap all the time. I'm fairly certain that part of it is me having an anxiety disorder that I haven't bothered to have diagnosed, and the other part is that I'm just a weepy mess.

Things will get better! I promise

jdluvr06 · February 2014

Big hugs.

NavyBlue143 · February 2014

You're entitled to your feelings. I mean, there's always someone who has it worse, but that doesn't make your frustration and sadness any less valid. I cry over silly crap all the time. And missing your Fi and being disappointed that a rare date night was cancelled is not silly crap.

Big hug.

pinkshorts27 · February 2014

*hugs* I'd be upset too. I was supposed to fly home this weekend to see FI for Valentine's Day and an early birthday, but my test got moved and he is super busy. We are skyping but he is studying and I'm drinking wine and watching Rizzoli and Isles. I'm going to change to cranberry vodka soon.

sarahufl · February 2014

amandaj424 said:

So yesterday was Valentine's Day and the first day my FI and I have really seen each other in 2 weeks. We saw each other in passing, no more than 1 hour at a time and that was only on about 2 of the 14 days. Yesterday we went to a wine tasting and it was super fun and we bought wine for our parents and ourselves but the bottle for his parents broke so we gave them ours. Which means we got none for ourselves and this winery is a 2 hour drive away and given my FI's ridiculous schedule the chances that we will have the opportunity to drive 2 hours to buy a bottle of wine are very slim. Our 5 year anniversary is on Monday but he has class so we were going to celebrate it tonight. However, mother nature thought tonight would be a great night for a blizzard. This means that since we don't live together, he can't make it to my house and our date night has been cancelled. This also means we won't see each other until next weekend at the very earliest. I feel like these are little things and I really shouldn't be sad but I am. Who cries over spilled wine? I just feel like it is a combination of all these small, annoying things happening all at once. Honestly, I feel like I should get over it because with this only being his first year of med school I know it is only going to get worse before it gets better. I also know things could be worse right now and I always feel bad complaining because I am sure one of you reading this probably does have it worse. Sorry for the little pity post. Can we have a group hug?

Things CAN always be worse, but right now this is something you are (and should be) upset about. Be upset sometimes

arrippa · February 2014

amandaj424 said:

So yesterday was Valentine's Day and the first day my FI and I have really seen each other in 2 weeks. We saw each other in passing, no more than 1 hour at a time and that was only on about 2 of the 14 days. Yesterday we went to a wine tasting and it was super fun and we bought wine for our parents and ourselves but the bottle for his parents broke so we gave them ours. Which means we got none for ourselves and this winery is a 2 hour drive away and given my FI's ridiculous schedule the chances that we will have the opportunity to drive 2 hours to buy a bottle of wine are very slim. Our 5 year anniversary is on Monday but he has class so we were going to celebrate it tonight. However, mother nature thought tonight would be a great night for a blizzard. This means that since we don't live together, he can't make it to my house and our date night has been cancelled. This also means we won't see each other until next weekend at the very earliest. I feel like these are little things and I really shouldn't be sad but I am. Who cries over spilled wine? I just feel like it is a combination of all these small, annoying things happening all at once. Honestly, I feel like I should get over it because with this only being his first year of med school I know it is only going to get worse before it gets better. I also know things could be worse right now and I always feel bad complaining because I am sure one of you reading this probably does have it worse. Sorry for the little pity post. Can we have a group hug?

To the bold-I do! Especially if it's good wine.

On a more serious note, I am sorry that things are crazy and you are feeling dissapointed. I am glad that you have Skype, but this shall pass. There will be a time when you guys are married and living together. Keep your eyes on that prize.

Cokezerofreak · February 2014

FI and I do Skype dates all the time -- rent the same movie to watch it together, DVR our favorite show to watch together, etc. It sucks you're not together and plans get canceled and it is perfectly okay to be upset about it.

erinlin25 · February 2014

PennyBlossom2311 · February 2014

"BIG GROUP HUG!"

I know it stinks. FI and I live and hour and half apart and when things come up or mother nature intervenes, it can be beyond frustrating especially we only see each other on weekends. It's totally normal to be frustrated and get upset about it. I am really quick to be bummed when plans have to be canceled. (I am usually the one that has to cancel when a surprise paper comes up or I need a weekend to study- It really sucks being on that end of it too) Time will go by faster than you think and before you know it, you'll be a month away from living together. Don't worry sweetie, you'll get through it. I am very very sorry to hear about your wine. That would send me into tears, especially if it was really good wine. You're better than me. I would have been like "Sorry parents, they were all out and we couldn't buy any to take home"

amakayeb · February 2014

Adding more hugs...I'm living 5 hours from my fiance right now, and we've had some stretches of 3 weeks or so where we haven't been able to see each other. I have been weepier this year than ever before, and the littlest things will make me cry! (Happy or sad tears...)

Skype is the way we are getting through it too. We turn it on in the evenings, chat for a little bit, and then leave it on while he works on homework and I do whatever. That really helps us feel like we are still able to spend some time together, even when we can't be together. We also have some games that we like to play on our phones while we Skype (such as cribbage). But I know how, when one of us gets really busy, it's hard on the other person. Like others have said, keep your eye on the light at the end of the tunnel (although sometimes thinking about that makes it worse for me, because the closer it gets the more I want it to be here RIGHT NOW!).

claudialrodas · February 2014

Oh that’s really sad, I hope that you two get to see each other asap though certain things tend to happen when we are the most happiest but nothing can’t be done specially to natural calamities. I Hope every things gets good, and a huge hug from my side!!!

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