My FMIL emailed me this morning with a picture of an outfit she is thinking about wearing to the wedding. She wanted to know if it was too casual. It is much more casual than what my mother or members of the wedding party will be wearing, but I don't care what she wears as long as she is happy in it. She previously emailed me to ask if it was OK for her to wear light beige to the wedding, and I told her to wear whatever color she wants. (FI has told me his sister was more than a bit of a bridezilla when she was getting married, so I think FMIL is walking on egg shells a little bit because she expects all brides act that way.)
However, FMIL is the type of person who will be self conscious if she thinks she is dressed too casually and it might make her less comfortable at the wedding.
As she is a grown woman and is perfectly capable of choosing her own clothing, I don't want to tell her what she should wear. However, she asked for my opinion and I know she is doing that because she will be uncomfortable and think people are making comments about her if she doesn't think she is as dressed up as everyone else.
I was thinking I would respond by reminding her what my dress looks like (I sent her a picture, but it was a while ago) and explaining what my mother and the bridal party will be wearing and then telling her that if she wants to wear the outfit she chose that is fine but if she feels she should get something fancier that is fine too. Is this the proper response etiquette wise? Is there anything else I should do, like offer to go shopping with her for an outfit if she wants? She's a sweet lady and I don't want her to feel uncomfortable, but I also don't want to overstep and boss her around. I want her to wear something that she likes and feels good in to our wedding, and I'm happy to help her pick something out if necessary. Advice would be appreciated.
