Mailing out my invitations this week and I'm still up in the air about inviting my Ph.D. advisor Over the last five years she has made my life hell in ways that are above and beyond the usual Ph.D. experience. I have lost almost 25lbs from the stress of working with her and have had to seek psych help and medication. Additionally, she is socially inept, can't keep her mouth closed, and openly mocks my religious views, which is a problem since I am having a church wedding. Obviously I do not under any circumstances want her at what should be the happiest day of my life. However, she is the type who will be really really upset if she isn't invited, to the point that she might be vindictive about it. I can't sneak the whole thing past her if I want to have time off work for the wedding and honeymoon. Anyone have any advice?