Hey Fellow Knotties, finally working on my invite designs and I need assistance with wording!

Re: Hey Fellow Knotties, finally working on my invite designs and I need assistance with wording!

• Blue_Bird member

  

  February 2014 edited February 2014

  That's a little wordy.
  
  I sincerely doubt you will have that many people respond only to come to the ceremony and bail on the reception. For the few people who may, I think you'll just have to deal. Try not to worry about the worst case scenario though. Just enjoy!
  
  *Edited for spelling
  

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• CMGragain member

  

  February 2014

  
  

  M_________names of people invited____________________________
  
  

  _____ accept
  
  

  _____send regrets

  
  

  
  

  
  

  If you have any dietary restrictions please list them here: 

  ________________________________________________________

  
  

  Please kindly respond by xx/xx/xx (Notes to Knot readers: we are giving our guests 3 weeks before the wedding because our cake person and food person needs final count by two weeks before and I want at least a week to follow up with our guests)

  

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• SammiNJonni member

  

  February 2014

  Unfortunately this is the same as no shows and you can not ask if they will only attend part of the event. 
  

  

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• HisGirlFriday13 member

  

  February 2014

  I agree with CMGr. I think your version is too wordy. Also, I think people who won't attend the reception are the minority. I've never known anyone to skip that part. The wedding part, yes, the fun and food part, no.

  

  
  

  
  

  I'm gonna go with 'not my circus, not my monkeys.'

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• Amyzen83 member

  

  February 2014

  Ah man! Hopefully the amount of no shows will be small. Well, I appreciate the advice ladies! I'm definitely a fan of less wordy as that takes up less space and paper!

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• Amyzen83 member

  

  February 2014

  HisGirlFriday13 said:

  I agree with CMGr. I think your version is too wordy. Also, I think people who won't attend the reception are the minority. I've never known anyone to skip that part. The wedding part, yes, the fun and food part, no.

  Thanks HisGirl, I think I commented as you were commenting. I think you may be right in that if people were to pick a part of the event to go to, it would be the fun part

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• AddieCake member

  

  February 2014

  Yep, too wordy.

  What did you think would happen if you walked up to a group of internet strangers and told them to get shoehorned by their lady doc?~StageManager14

  

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• Amyzen83 member

  

  February 2014

  So I take it the general consensus here is less is more, and not to worry about the possibility of no shows, thanks a bunch ladies! 

  
  

  I think now that it's closer to my wedding date, I'll probably post more etiquette questions if they haven't yet been answered in older posts. I'm sooo glad I've stuck around!

  
  

  CMGragain I think I'll use your wording! Thanks!

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• HisGirlFriday13 member

  

  February 2014

  Amyzen83 said:

  
  

  HisGirlFriday13 said:

  
  

  I agree with CMGr. I think your version is too wordy. Also, I think people who won't attend the reception are the minority. I've never known anyone to skip that part. The wedding part, yes, the fun and food part, no.

  
  

  Thanks HisGirl, I think I commented as you were commenting. I think you may be right in that if people were to pick a part of the event to go to, it would be the fun part
  
  Stupid Knot delay! I do think the number will be small. Good luck!

  

  
  

  
  

  I'm gonna go with 'not my circus, not my monkeys.'

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• SammiNJonni member

  

  February 2014

  Yep if people choose to only attend part it is normally the reception. You will not have many that duck out after the ceremony.
  

  

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• Amyzen83 member

  

  February 2014

  On the opposite side of the spectrum, we are having an extra table for people who happen to RSVP late based on situations out of their control - recent surgeries, babies, illnesses, stuff like that.

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• doeydo member

  

  February 2014

  An entire extra table for people who RSVP late?  There might be like one person sitting at that table...  Correct me if I'm wrong here, but I believe you are OK to call people after the RSVP by date to find out if they are coming or not and if they still are iffy you can count them as a 'no'.

  
  

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• Grabows14 member

  

  February 2014

  You could always write in there the food that would eat, and if they plan ahead of time to not stay for the reception, then they shouldn't choose food: 

  
  

  M_________names of people invited____________________________
  

  _____ NY Strip Steak

  _____ Grilled Mahi Mahi

  _____ Eggplant Parmesean

  
  

  If you have any dietary restrictions please list them here: (Notes to Knot readers: it's buffet style, so I'm not asking for food preferences)

  ________________________________________________________

  

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• Amyzen83 member

  

  February 2014

  Well perhaps not a whole table because that would be about 10 seats... I'm planning on calling people the week before I absolutely need final head counts. If like 4 to 6 people who are like on the fence call me like the week of, then I'd mix them amongst guests they already know.

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• aurianna member

  

  February 2014

  Usually the people that "no show" to a wedding reception don't come to the ceremony either, so this likely won't help you much.
  I had three people that came to the ceremony only, but they either wrote that on their RSVP or RSVPd no but told me verbally they'd be coming to the ceremony.
  I had 5 no shows and none of them came to the ceremony.
  
  Also, I'd definitely not have a checkbox that says ceremony + reception, because some might [incorrectly] interpret it as your saying "you better not skip my ceremony if you're going to eat my food." Most guests know that RSVPing for a wedding means coming to both ceremony and reception.
  

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• Mitch617 member

  

  February 2014

  What does your FMIL do when she RSVPs to a wedding but doesn't plan to go to the reception? I'd think that people who regularly do that would realize how RSVPs affect your planning and add a note or tell you their plans.

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• singinchick13 member

  

  February 2014

  If someone were intentionally only attending your ceremony and you referenced food on your reply card, I would think they may indicate that they do not plan to attend the reception. Your FMIL is likely in the minority, though. And since you are giving guests a 3 week RSVP date, you should be able to call everyone who has not replied within the week or two after that date. You should know by then exactly how much seating you need, I don't think an entire extra table is necessary. You will be saving yourself money on an extra centerpiece, linens, and having a potentially empty fully set table at your reception.

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• Jen4948 member

  

  February 2014

  It's too wordy. 
  
  First I'd take out the words that supposedly describe the emotions people might be feeling about accepting or declining.  It does come off as a little presumptuous that they might be "joyfully" accepting or "delighted" to come.
  
  Also, I'd just assume that someone will be attending the whole thing and plan accordingly, rather than trying to find out if they are coming only to the ceremony or only to the reception-regardless of what your FMIL does.  Having some extras is pretty much par for the course.  The point is to make sure that everyone invited can be accommodated assuming 100% of the guests show up for the whole event-not to try to nickel and dime it.  Yes, it can get expensive, but at least that way, you've covered all the bases and you don't have to scramble at the last minute to accommodate guests whom you didn't plan for.
  

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• Amyzen83 member

  

  February 2014

  Thank you ladies this is all really good advice and I'll make my RSVPs less wordy!

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