So I dunno, I'm very picky with certain details like my own dress but I've been very wishy-washy with everything else. We haven't shopped for dresses yet and I haven't figured out a color scheme yet (wedding is in 7 months). FI and I talked about probably some sort of blue or green but that's the extent, we're really not picky or stressed about it. I don't have any "vision".
So I have 2 bridesmaids (1 maid of honor, 1 normal BM). One of them is in a wedding the weekend before mine and she just sent me a picture of the dress she's wearing in that wedding. It's a really nice teal color that I like and I do enjoy that it's not strapless. I'm almost thinking should I just go with that and save her from buying another dress. The other girl has already expressed her budget to me and the dress does fall within it and would look good on her figure. The dress is knee length so I really can't imagine it getting ripped or ruined at the first wedding. Is that weird of me to consider doing? Should I take them shopping and see if there's something I like better? (she's not at all suggesting that's what we do, she's fine buying another)
Re: Did you really care what your BM dresses looked like or the color?
If I were you and you liked the color of the other BM dress, I would just re-use that dress and have your other BM buy that dress too. I'm sure your other BM will be thrilled to not buy another dress and to get a second use out of it. (I know she said she's fine buying another - but she will still be happy not to!)
As for your other questions. I wanted all my girls in the same short dress. Other than that, I didn't really care. I made an appointment for all of us to go shopping together. They picked the dresses they liked and narrowed it down to 3, then had me choose the final. As for color, I would have liked for the girls to wear green dresses, but I didn't feel right about having them buy a green dress since it's not always a well liked color. So the color they did purchase was my nuetral accent color of silver. My one BM was able to wear it again at an awards gala a few months later!
I asked my BMs to buy grey dresses. Don't care the style/fabric/specific color of grey.
I want the girls in black dresses. I also want them all to be roughly the same length (long or short)- they just need to agree as a group. Beyond that, I don't care a lot. Though I have mentioned that I prefer the dresses to be simpler and not sparkly.
I ended up with a much larger wedding party than I ever imagined (5 ladies) and each one has a different shape, size, budget, and dress preference. I want everyone to feel beautiful and not stress out about being in my wedding. That's my biggest priority.
My friend - a BM - keeps telling me that I'm going to change my mind and want everyone matching. She could be right but my biggest concern is making sure that everyone is happy and comfortable.
That said, I'm going to buy them all matching wraps and jewelry to tie it all together (don't worry- not as BM gifts!). The groomsmen are all wearing matching tuxes (FI's call) so it would be cute if there was some coordination with the ladies.
@shrekspeare well that doesn't sound like it ended well- what happened?!
@mitch617 It's her step brother's wedding so there is not a single guest attending both except of course my BM.