Let me preface this by saying that this is a terrible, terrible story and I do realize how terrible it is, but it's so terrible that I feel like I need to talk about it. Also it's a really weird situiation.
My 27 year old cousin died in December. It was sudden and unexpected. I'm 26, we were closest in age and my entire family is incredibly close. The experience was terrible, the funeral was terrible, and Chrismas was hard.
Skip ahead about a week or two, a lot of crazy stuff has gone down. We find out that her husband hadn't called 911 until at least a day after she had died (he said he had gone to the store for an hour or 2 and came backand found her). He's been telling conflicting stories, his best friend is the cop investigating, he an her kids are living with her best friend (oh yeah, they have two very young children), and worst-that she had been sick for days and had someone taken her to the hospital she probably wouldn't have died.
Ok, well yes all of this is weird,but I don't think this is his fault;but my family does. They're the type to place blame when they are greiving, I get it-they need somewhere to channel their grief.
Trivial, and yes i know it's trivial, issue at hand:
I sent their family a save the date before this happened, but considering the circumstances, am not sure that I should invite him. It's incredibly sad because her 2 children are caught in the middle, but I really feel like this would just be asking for something terrible to happen.
Opinions?
{ keep in mind before you attack me for asking a question about my wedding in these circumstances, I have been to multiple therapy sessions to try and cope with this and this is an actual issue, as i don't want anyone (mainly her father) punching anyone else in the face). }